I swear, MTV "reality" shows are the worst-- but I can't help but watch them, they're the worst guilty pleasure ever!

Wow.. this is just stupid.
If they think they'll be together forever they could wait with the marriage.
I bet they'll split up in the nearest future.

The Xbox comment is kinda LOL ^^
It's such a boy/man comment..
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heheh cant live with them cant live without them:P

Well my parents got married at twenty and are almost to their 40th wedding anniversary, so I am kind of biased, I know, that was a different time and all, but they both finished college and grad school and didn't have kids for 10 years so they had their fun.

I just think it was because my mom met my dad when she was studying to become a nun lol (dead serious about that)!!

I think people are different these days, most 20 year olds live in the now and not for the future. I was 24 when I got married and still felt a little young!

This is just a bizarre show.

im 21 and my husband is 27:)

Fantasia it helps when the man is older (at least that's what I think because a nice age gap means they're equal to your maturity hehe).

I'm 25 and my hubby is 28, when we got engaged I was 22 and he was 25 and people thought we were nuts!

I was married at nineteen...and June will be our 17th anniversary. Seventeen years of passion, laughter, love, family, commitment...I wouldn't change a thing! I am very blessed to have met "the one" at such an early point in my life...fewer frogs to kiss and more years to enjoy each other.

princis ur right heheheh:P
sevenOver im very happy for u guys;) wish u the best!

Maybe it's because Im 18 right now but this show makes me almost want to puke....I mean I can't even find a seriouse boyfriend and people my age are getting married? I dunno maybe it's just me but the thought of being married at 19-20 is just stupid. Plus most of the people I know who are engaged or about to be engaged I can already tell will be broken up in a year tops.

the first year of marriage is always the hardest and ppl rush into the descision of breakin up and leavin one another, but u are combining two different backgrounds of people, no matter how many years u dated or lived together marriage is so different. it takes more than a year to know ur difference and even when u know ur difference there will be times when ul go crazy but if u start thinkin that ul just keep fighting and everybody should wait then no one will get married:?

Thank you, Fantasia...and best wishes to you and your husband, as well!

heart sugar...I found out a few years ago that on the day of my wedding, my sister made a bet that our marriage wouldn't last a year because we were "too young". She learned, as you may also, not to judge another's relationship from the outside looking in. You cannot put an age level on commitment, devotion, and love...and you have no way of gauging the heartfelt desire one person may have to grow and learn and live with another.

ur welcome seven:) and very true hehe

depends on the people involved in the relationship and their maturity level. who is to say what will work or not

exactly angel

MBM
To each his or her own..At 21 I had a lot to see & do and was nowhere near ready for marriage...
I was working a million hours a week in NYC in the advertsing world...on weekends (when I wasn't at the office) I was out with my friends totally partying.
I'm glad I waited until I was 28 to get married. My career was really running & had TONS of girls trips under my belt.

MBM
Also, I think regionally it differs...In NYC 30 is when I see most people getting married but 35 is common too. I think different areas are much younger.

Well, on the one hand, the MTV promo just makes me cringe! It's all just so crass -- and maybe they're right that the level of maturity showed (just in the preview) is so low that, well, how can this possibly work?

On the other hand, I got married at 20 (dh had recently turned 22), and here we are 8 years and two kids later. But I *had* already graduated with my BA, dh was a year into grad school (yes, we did school young as well -- perhaps in some ways part of the reason we felt ready to marry at that age), we both had some work experience and had been living away from our families since the age of 17. I don't think there would have been any great benefit to our waiting a few more years in the hope that an arbitrary age would make us more likely to "work". But we *did* do other things right -- we'd finished school, we had careers in place that could support us...

I still jump when I hear of someone very young getting married -- and sometimes have to remind myself that I was that age or younger when I was married. But marriage (in this century especially) always takes on a certain element of risk. Both parties must be equally committed to making it work, to serving the other person, to giving up aspects of their own desires in order to support the other person... And sometimes a bit of "growing up together" can cement a relationship rather than driving it apart...

But man, MTV! What an awful, awful looking show! Thank goodness for 24 instead!

Everyone's different. Some people are ready at a young age, some aren't. I'm still working on the *ready* part!

MTV is really scraping the bottom of the barrel for shows.

it depends on the area and place and enironment aswell:) true:)

oh man. if i had married the guy i was dating at 19 (oh i thought it was true love!) i would be divorced. your mind is proven to not be fully developed until you are 25. i am a different person every year. everything i liked about my bf when i was 17 turned in to the reasons we broke up when i was 19...

MelissaBritt I totally agree with the area part of it. When my husband and I met we were both doing I Banking in Boston and we both agreed that had we met in NYC, we probably would not be married.

I'm bangning on the door to 21... 46 days, and my boyfriend is 21, we've been together for 2.25 years (we met at orientation on a volleyball court v.romantic lol) and while we may be young, we've already talked about getting married post graduation. He's full ride so he's entering life debt free, and as soon as I sell my house I will be too.

But the key is while we may be young we've seen eachother through so much, as competitive NCAA athletes we've helped eachother through our season highs and lows, He was my rock after my mother passed away this may, and while we may only be 21 I couldn't imagine life with anyone else.

you can't judge someones maturity by age, I may only be 21, but I've delt with things most 40 year olds haven't.

I was married at 19 and have been married for 16 years. However, I realize I was lucky. I was still able to go to college and get a degree after marriage and a child, but it was very difficult. Much more difficult than it would have been if I hadn't had a small child. I definitely advise my own 14 year old son and my 15 and 17 year old nieces to wait.

MTV is the pits. I know most reality shows are exploitative ( is that the right word?), but they are the worst.

As for marriage...young or old...it depends on what marriage means to the couple. Age and even maturity level doesn't guarantee a successful marriage. I think successful marriages are based on personality, willingness to compromise, and other factors that really don't have much to do with age.

imalifeguard...people change all the time, before the age of twenty-five and after. I am by no means the same person at 36 that I was at 26...we all grow and evolve and learn all the time.

The moment I married my husband, I became a stepmother. Within a few years, I was a mother to two children of my own, as well. I've been career-oriented, working my way from "gal Friday" to business manager of a male-dominated corporation...until I left that position to be stay-at-home mommy to my wonderful boys. I've worked my way through college with the help and support of my husband and the cheerleading of my kids...to come out the other side and find that I love my new career working as a social caseworker to disadvantaged and at-risk youth.

My point is...we grow and change all the time...before twenty-five and after...before marriage and after. It's finding that one person to be by your side through all of it that's the trick! If someone finds it at nineteen, another at twenty-seven, and yet another at thirty-six...good for ALL of them!

My husband and I were 19 when we got married. We just celebrated 3 years yesterday.

I believe marriage has a lot to do with maturity more than age. I thought I was never going to get married until I met my husband. People thought I was crazy when they found out. If you have things in common, share the same beliefs, know what your goals are, and able to live on your own, then it can work no matter how old you are.

I don't think I'll be watching this show though.

MTV? I thought they were about music. HAHA.

Anyway, marriage is kinda outdated. And getting married before you even start your adult life is foolish. My mom always said "don't settle until you are 30, because you will be different person at 30 than you were at 20." Good advice, mom!

MTV is not only in the crapper, but their products are asinine.

who the heck would actually watch this crap

Of course, to each their own. I didn't mean to speak foranyone else (although I obviously did. Sorry.)

Wow I had no idea so many people got married so young on this site. I guess if it works for you then congrats. However like I said Im still trying to find the guy who will commit to dating, and to be honest the thought of getting married within the next two years is almost laughable to me, I don't evne pay my own phone bill.
Where are people finding these guys who actually want to get married? Most guys and girls I know just want to drink and fool around.

wow what a shame my satelitte doesn't pick up american mtv

age is just a number there are lots of 18 or 19 year olds who think like 30 year olds and alot of 40 and even 50 year olds that think not only like 18 but even 10 year olds sometimes! hehehhe

MBM
The sad part is for as many positive stories there are out there, I'm sure MTV is only going to show total trash & marriages that OBVIOUSLY shouldn't happen. It's not like they are going to send a message or anything...just showcase people with bad judgement no matter how old they are.. 21 31, or 41!!

MBM
Heart sugar, you are on the right track, ENJOY!!!!

I got married just a week after turning 20. We waited for 10 years to have kids so we got to enjoy a lot together and work out our relationship before adding children to the equation. At times it was really hard, but we celebrated out 12th anniversary yesterday and we are both happy and more in love (I know it sounds cheesy). I have no regrets. I do get the feeling that this show is going to showcase the kids that really should wait a bit longer otherwise, what would be the point.

I actually have no opinion on this

My problem with this show isn't that there are people willing to be on it that married young, since that is a personal decision and it's different for every couple. I have a 15 year old brother and I know that he and his friends are so different than I was at that age (and that was only 8 years ago!). They are so obsessed with social standing, money, and wearing designer labels it is unreal... for example, one of his friends got a Dior bag at 13!! THIRTEEN!!!!!! Can you even really appreciate Dior at that age? I just hope these kids don't see marriage as the cool thing to do just because it's on MTV, since that seems to be where they are getting most of their trends from. They're already growing up too fast, IMO.

That whole "you're a different person at 30 than you are at 20" is kind of silly. I'm a different person at 35 than I was at 30. Does that mean I shouldn't have married my husband at 30? We all change from day to day and year to year. At 40, I will be a different person than I was at 30 and will probably want different things out of life. I will more than likely be a mother and I probably won't be spending a lot of nights playing music in bars and clubs. I won't scuttle my husband because I've changed. The trick is to learn to grow and change TOGETHER. My parents were married at 19 and 21 and have been married 45 years. I got married at 30, my sister got married at 23 (and has been married for 15 years). It's not the age at which you get married, it's how you approach marriage.

Amen.

~Erin~

I was engaged at 17 and married a month after I graduated highschoool at 18. Seven years later we are still married. It takes drive and love. He has been military all seven years of our marriage and I lived in Lousiana with him by ourselves as well as now in Ohio. Seening how both our familes are in Buffalo NY it is tough at times. We struggled, and did all that everyone who would be married at 30 would do. Ive seen him thru deployments (hes deployed right now for the next 4 months) so its tough, but you truck through it. We are holding off on the kids just because it gives us time to get to know each other even better and we are able to "grow up" so to speak with this marriage. Everyone has issues, rather it be at age 18, 35 or 60. Im sure MTV will exploit all they can out of this. Just like their crappie "I want to strangle that kid" sweet sixteen bullcrap. Blegh.

SevenOver

hahah i didnt mean that you were just fully mature at 25. oh heavens no. lmao. i read a study recently though about relationships and hormones and stuff and how your brain doesnt really fully mature in those areas until 25. (which would explaina lot of rash judgements, overly emotional relationships, and such...also why young marriages have such a high divorce rate...)

i seriously agree with the whole MTV's reality is lame... lol.. My friend is engaged and she's about 17, and she's been dating the her fiancee for like 4 years... but they're not planning to get married anytime soon. like those wh*res in the trailer... they must be like super spoiled if their parents allow them to get married underaged....

I got married at 20 my dh was 21 and we will be married for 8 years in august. That is with a five year old with special health needs which I think puts us with a 80 % chance of divorce compared to the 50 % national average. Were still going strong and still loving each other. Tis true that when you get that married you havn't truly discovered yourself yet thankfully we made an effort to grow in the same direction. at almost 28 im still not changing and growing and I won't be done at 80 if im still alive, while I don't think young marriage is the ideal given the maturity level an selfishness of the average 19/20 year old I would hardly call it stupid either. i don't know if it matters but since it was mentioned in other post I will add that both my dh and I have college degrees.

Steph

i dont know about the general population. but before i get married, both careers have to in good standing or i'd have to be at least 25. thats my preference.

getting married young increases the risks of not spending enough time to get to know your partner, and this leads to future problems. statistics have shown this and that is why people dont get married too young. i think its best to marry at 23 and onwards

i do think its possible to get married young and have a healthy relationship but that probability is small as divorce rates are going through the roof.

i think we all think that we are wise at "all ages" but then when we grow older we realize our mistakes and accept that we werent as wise back then.

the reason mtv is putting this kinda show on is for entertainment values only, they probably picked couples with interesting, rather than healthy relationships

MTV sucks now.

MTV has sucked for a looooonnnnggggggg time

I was 19 & hubby was 21 when we got married. We've been together for 8 years.

My mom was 16 and my dad was 17 when they got married. They have their 29th anniversary in March.

Sometimes it's just right and you know it.

This will come across as rash, and probably offend, but here's the problem: We live in a society where we are no longer held accountable. We are encouraged to pass the buck.

When it comes to marriage, parents no longer teach children that marriage is sacred, time consuming, and constant work. Instead they are teaching that all they need to do is make their spouse happy. So when the spouse isn't happy, all they have to do is walk away. So tragic.

In regards to some comments posted on here though- Life experience does not equate maturity. It's sad that our society has evolved to the point where people experience much more at a younger age, but in no way, shape, or form does that make you mature. There are many factors contributing to the maturity a person has. I could sit here and give you accounts of my life experiences as if it was a resume, but at 27 years of age and a 4 year relationship, I'm not to that point yet. I'm light years away from being ready to marry.

My husband and I got married at 18 years old. I have been married to him now for ten wonderful years, have two beautiful children with him and a life that could not be more storybook if I wanted it to be. I really hate when people bash young people that get married, we are not all love sick puppies.

Army Wifey For Lifey