Alright I have a question for the gang. I live with my boyfriend. He owns our home and has lived here for two years. I have been dating him for longer. I moved in about 8 months ago. He has been very good about making sure that I feel like it is my place too; except for one thing. His parents have keys to our place and drop by to "help out" about twice a month, or more. Most of the time we aren't even home. In fact his dad didn't like the fact that I only keep diet coke in the house- so he brought his own kind and stocked our fridge. Now I invite them over like once a week for dinner, or to watch a movie, or hang out. I have no problem with them coming over in that context> I even go all out to make nice food for them and keep them comfortable.
About a month or two ago they really over stepped their bounds when I was trying to paint a room in our place they came when we were home and changed everything i was doing. I talked to my boyfriend and asked that he talk to them about only coming over when we are home. I am not really sure if he ever did, he got kind of upset about it though. Nothing has really changed in that regard.
So finally I asked that I at least get fair notice that they are coming. Yesterday his dad said he was going to bring his mail down sometime this week. I ask my bf if i should start cleaning right away, he told me no. Our housekeeper was coming Tuesday and he would have his dad come after that. So I come home from work and there was his mail that his dad dropped off on the couch!!!! Our place was a mess~~~~my boyfriend''s stuff was everywhere, there were dishes in the sink and a pile of clothes by the was that i haven't gotten to yet. I feel like there is a boundary issue here. Am I being unreasonable?