Some sugars know that I’m very vocal in my opinions. And some know that I’m married to a musician (and am a musician myself, though it’s not my day job). Lately, I’ve been reading comments in light of the whole Kate Hudson/Chris Robinson situation that kind of make me a bit annoyed.

Not all musicians are dogs. Not all fall for the groupie lifestyle. In fact, I think people might be surprised by how much that kind of lifestyle has declined in the past years. Does it still occur? Are some guys still dogs on the road? Of course. But not all. Some DO take their marriage vows seriously. My husband is in a band that is actually quite family friendly. Of the seven guys he travels with regularly, five are married (including Joe). Of those five, three have kids. And often the wives and kids travel with them, especially during the summer when they play a bunch of the open air festivals around. It’s not discouraged by any means. I’ve traveled with them. I was pretty much unable to this summer, but I’m dealing with it. We talk several times a day, even when he’s in Europe. I miss him. But I trust him. When we married, it was for better or worse, in sickness and it health, ‘til death do us part. I take that seriously. And you know what? He does too.

So please, don’t generalize infidelity to an entire career choice. If it’s harder to sustain a marriage to a musician, it’s because it can be a lonely life. It’s because the distance can kill a couple who aren’t strong. It’s because not having your man around for months on end can create more than physical distance. But it’s not always because men are dogs and will cheat with the first hot little groupie that tosses her panties at them.