Ask E. Jean for DearSugar: I'm Having an Affair and Don't Want to Stop [2] Hello E. Jean and DearSugar — Here’s my situation: I’m a 30-something professional, married, with a couple kids, and for the last couple years, I’ve also been secretly involved with a most amazing guy, who is also married and who travels a lot for his work. We meet occasionally when our schedules permit.