An ex boyfriend and I admit we are disastrous at dating (and everything it entailed) and after three failed attempts swore it off but make wonderful friends. We can tell the other anything and our families never really stopped talking to the ex. No insinuations from either side but they know we're friends so why stop talking to the person when they know he/she will be back eventually (Dysfunctional i know). After our last few breakups, we stopped talking for years until the deaths of his grandmother and a friend brought us back together. Despite years, it was like no time had passed and we picked up right where we left off in the friendship. Admittey, our friendship is an odd one that is often misunderstood by many, including our own significant others who see deeper feelings than actually exist. At his ex-fiancée's insistence we stopped being friends because she thought we were in love and didn't appreciate the challenge to her relationship. At that point it had been three years since we split and we were both seeing other people. Despite promising her nothing would happen-we split amicably and resumed the friendship when they called off the marriage because she was unfaithful.
Realizing that we'd walked back into each others lives for the twentieth time after a split, we are now questioning why. Is it actually conceivable that two people who are incompatible every other way can be compatible as friends? If so, how-in the spirit of full disclosure-do we explain our relationship (past and present) to either of our significant others? Do we even need to?