Ryan Gosling  is your mistletoe dream guy , and the charming actor got serious for an interview with the LA Times. He talked about the emotional inspiration for Blue Valentine  and why he hasn't been out promoting his other new release, All Good Things . Ryan and Michelle Williams  did make the rounds for their release, showing off their amazing chemistry at every stop . Perhaps they'll even walk the Golden Globes  red carpet together next month. Blue Valentine is out in NY and LA tomorrow and elsewhere over the next few weeks. Here are highlights: 
- On acting and interviews: "I don't really like doing interviews because I don't have any answers about why I act. It's like a compulsion. It's people who eat and eat and eat and they don't know why and they keep getting fatter but they can't stop. It's like that . . . And then you find yourself on a set throwing yourself off a bridge, and you're asking yourself, 'Why am I doing this?' And I don't know."
- On promoting movies: "I try not to make too many movies. I get sick of myself, so I can imagine how everyone else feels. And for the two to come out at the same time, it makes me feel sick."
- On making independent movies: "When I make these movies, I don't think, 'I want to make a little indie movie and I want to stay in the indie world because I think it's cool. I make these movies and think, 'This is the one. This one is going to be "The Blair Witch Project."' I'm sure of it while we're making it. And then it comes out and it does no business. I just have this total fantasy that you can make a movie like 'Blue Valentine' and that it can be as big as 'Avatar.' That's my dream. I don't have kids or something else more important in my life right now so I keep hammering away at it. I haven't done it yet. But I think I'm getting closer."
To read what Ryan has to say about All Good Things and the relationships he used as Blue Valentine inspiration, just .
- On All Good Things: "I'm proud of what Kirsten does in the movie. It was a hard film to make because it was such a dark experience. Just the story itself, trying to understand the things that your gut tells you you don't want to feel for this person. It's an interesting experience to have, but you're happy when it's over."
- On Blue Valentine: "I feel like 'Blue Valentine' is the biggest dog on my porch because it's the most universal experience: What happens when love goes away. It's the ripple effect of that lost love, the shadow it casts."
- On the relationships he used as inspiration for BV: "There's something I often see in people who've been married — a deep undercurrent of resentment toward the other person because they need them. You could tell these were people who didn't know how to address the bigger problems in their relationship. People are fighting about these things that are not really what they're fighting about."