Annie Scudder
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The Obamas Dispel Myth That Bullying Is a Rite of Passage

We all recall being picked on at some point in our youth, but memories of hurt feelings differ from an experience of systematic bullying.


We all recall being picked on at some point in our youth, but memories of hurt feelings differ from an experience of systematic bullying. Today, the Obamas are trying to dispel the myth that bullying is a rite of passage. Holding the first-ever White House Conference on Bullying Prevention, a daylong summit bringing together students, parents, teachers, and the Departments of Education and Health and Human Services, President Obama explained its mission: "If there's one goal of this conference, it's to dispel the myth that bullying is just a harmless rite of passage or an inevitable part of growing up. It's not."

Obama got some laughter when he mentioned being teased for his big ears and funny name, but cautioned the audience to not chalk the taunting up to the idea that "kids will be kids." Michelle Obama offered some real solutions in her opening remarks. She called on parents to listen to their children, to get involved with their school activities so they're in tune with what's going on. She also said adults should set an example with their own behavior.

Today there's an even greater risk that teasing can escalate to cyberbullying, which includes spying, digital disrespect, and online cruelty. Most of us didn't face the emerging risks associated with technology, but I'm sure many confronted bullying in some way. Since Obama shared his bullying experience, I'm curious: what was yours?

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Disney Shelves Fairy Tale Movies — Good News For Girls?

Based on the interest in Prince William and Kate Middleton's engagement last week, I'd say royalty is having a moment.

Based on the interest in Prince William and Kate Middleton's engagement last week, I'd say royalty is having a moment. But Disney, the peddler of princess dreams, thinks fairy tale movies are no longer relevant and it's shelving them for the foreseeable future. Explaining that films and genres run their course, Disney's animation group has killed two fairy tale movies in development and says Tangled will be its last.

It's no longer financially feasible for studios to market some movies to girls and some movies to boys, which is bad news for narrow gender roles. The hope of appealing to a larger audience motivated Disney to give Tangled a gender-neutral name and we can expect more movies like Toy Story, which will have broad themes that appeal to boys or girls (and men or women) alike. But a shift in what little girls want might have prompted the decision, too. The LA Times explains:

Among girls, princesses and the romanticized ideal they represent — revolving around finding the man of your dreams — have a limited shelf life. With the advent of "tween" TV, the tiara-wearing ideal of femininity has been supplanted by new adolescent role models such as the Disney Channel's Selena Gomez and Nickelodeon's Miranda Cosgrove.

Before you rejoice about today's enlightened children, note that princesses might be too innocent for savvy tweens. One expert on media and children's values says that by the time they're 5 or 6, girls are "interested in being hot, in being cool."

Update: According to a Disney's Facebook page, fairy tales are alive and well at the studio.