. . . enjoy being the center of attention.
My boyfriend of almost two years just got into law school and I couldn't be happier for him. For the past four months we have been discussing moving in together when both of our leases are up in October and the only uncertainty was where. Now that he knows where he'll be for the next three years, we've started to search for the right areas, prices, and furniture. He is very excited about this move, but I am freaking out. This is the most healthy relationship I have ever been in, I am extremely happy and in love, but what if moving in together ruins everything? I understand that it is the next step but I can't help but look seven months down the road. So much can happen over the next seven months and I'm starting to really freak myself out. Do you have any advice? — Tripping Tanna
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Even if you don't buy your condoms in bulk, many of you might have a few laying around the house. It's common practice to keep them in your medicine cabinet or your bedside table drawer, but I've seen them in much more interesting places like in the kitchen or under the mattress! So where do you keep your condoms? Tell me in the comments below!
Zac Efron is all over the place these days promoting his new movie 17 Again. The title alone has got me thinking about my teenage years, and while I have no complaints about my past, I don't think I'd want to relive high school. The carefree lifestyle would be nice, but I could go without the drama and the uncertainty of being a teenager. That's just my opinion though, so do tell, would you ever want to be 17 again?
Hey DearSugar readers, I've got a secret. Starting tomorrow, there will be some exciting changes coming to DearSugar — but I can't tell you what just yet! So stay tuned and keep your eye on DearSugar Wednesday evening to find out what's in store.
There are no rules when it comes to getting married — some couples elope, some have quickie engagements, and others revel in engagement bliss and take their time before walking down the isle. Different things work for different couples, but I'm curious to know what your ideal engagement length would be, so do tell!
I suggest therapy all the time on DearSugar for those in need of a listening ear, and therapy was brought up yet again on last night's episode of The Hills. Clearly Heidi and Spencer have some things to work out if they want to make their relationship work, and it's probably no surprise to you that I think couples counseling would do wonders for them! Taking that step and admitting you need help isn't easy but I'm curious to know if any of you have actually done it before. Whether your dating or married, tell me, have you ever gone to therapy with your significant other?
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In this economy, saving money where you can is a no-brainer, which is why buying in bulk is a smart investment — you'll always need toilet paper and detergent, right? But what about buying condoms in bulk? Is it a do or a don't?
I have to say ladies, I was pretty surprised to see how many of you feel comfortable going to the bathroom in front of your significant other! And while most of you draw the line at going pee, some of you felt that even that was taking it too far. So to delve deeper into this subject, I thought I'd ask where you stand on going to the bathroom in front of your girlfriends! If you're one to travel to the bathroom in packs, tell me, do you actually drop trou in front of each other?
Me and my boyfriend got into a couple of bad fights last month. Actually it was more like me yelling like a crazy person and him trying to walk away. He says he does that so he won't say something he'll regret, but I take it as him not listening or not caring. We finally talked a week after our last spat, and he told me that he doesn't think it's going to work out because he's tired of trying.
Every time it gets to the point where he wants to breakup with me, I change my tune and don't sweat the small stuff. But after a couple of months go by, I get back into the routine of getting upset and flipping out. I know I need an attitude adjustment and I want to change, but I don't know how. Do you have any advice? — Want to Save My Relationship Sandra
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Sometimes we all need a little help navigating the choppy waters of dating when tech gets tossed into the mix, which is why geeksugar and I have teamed up for another installment of Tech Dating 101. Last week, we talked about canceling a date via text, and this week we're discussing whether or not texting and making calls during your date is acceptable dinner etiquette.
Can I text and make phone calls during a date without being rude?
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It's an ongoing debate — whether women dress to impress men or other women. According to the May issue of Glamour magazine, 83 percent of women polled said they actually dress to impress themselves! Sure, if the guy likes the outfit, that's an added bonus, but I'm curious to know if you do the same. Tell me ladies, who do you dress for?
Getting engaged is a very special right of passage between two people who love each other, and choosing where to take that next step in your relationship is something that usually takes a lot of thought and planning. When the time comes for me to get engaged, I'd want my boyfriend to ask me someplace private so we can share that intimate moment together, just the two of us, but I know that some women really enjoy a more public profession of love. No one way is better than the other, so tell me, do you think public proposals are a do or a don't?
I'm engaged to be married to a wonderful man who I love dearly. He's currently in medical school and we are spending every last bit of our savings to have the wedding of our dreams. We talk openly about our future, especially when it comes to starting a family of our own, and we decided that we'd wait until he's done with school and his residency, and once we've saved a significant chunk of money. Our wedding is just two months away and I thought my period was late due to the wedding stress, but I was wrong — I'm pregnant.
Having a baby is not something I'm ready for, and it's definitely not the right time for my fiance either, so I'm seriously contemplating having an abortion. I don't know how he's going to react to this news, which is why part of me wants to not even tell him at all. I know that starting our marriage off with a lie is wrong, but could I be forgiven for terminating this pregnancy without telling him? If he doesn't know, will it not hurt him?
DearSugar and Not Into It Natalie need your help. She was asked to be a bridesmaid in her husband's best friend's wedding, but she has no desire to accept the challenge. Since her husband is in the wedding on the groom's side, she doesn't know how to get out of it. Do you have any advice for her?
A friend asked me to be in her wedding. My husband is best friends with the groom, but the bride and I hardly know each other. I feel like she only asked me to fill a hole in her wedding party and I have no desire to take on this responsibility. Not only do I not have the time or money, I'm not this girl's biggest fan. If it was anyone else I'd simply tell her I couldn't afford it, or didn't have the time, but my husband is in the wedding so I feel like my excuse isn't valid. Is there a way for me to say no or am I stuck?
When the weekend arrives, I instantly transform into chill mode. I sleep in and take my time around the house, and it feels like I seldom get out of my sweatpants until it's time to go out at night. I run errands in my sweats, I shop in my sweats, I even go out to lunch in my sweats. My plans, of course, dictate my outfit, but I'm curious to know where you stand on staying in your loungewear on the weekend. Is it something you do, too, or do your sweats make you feel less productive?
Let's face it, reaching the big O isn't easy for everyone, which is why it's so unfair that many women have been known to have more than one during a single sexual escapade! Something tells me it's not all that common though, so let's vote — are you able to have multiple orgasms?