POPSUGAR Fashion Poll As Wedding Season Winds Down, I just had to ask. Is Being a Bridesmaid An Honor or A Royal Pain? by Fashion 8/20/06 0 Shares Like us on Facebook Read More Fab Poll Get chic with our daily newsletter Sign up for our daily newsletter. Celebrity Style Beauty Tips Fashion and Beauty News Street Style Sign up with crispet1 8 years I agree with you, Mar. mar 8 years honestly, the worst part of being a bridesmaid is when the bride makes the bridesmaids purchase and wear something they will never wear again. I did a black and white wedding, so I only had my sisters as bridesmaids, and I told them to buy a black longer dress that THEY liked and could get use out of. I think its rude to make the girls buy a dress they will never wear again, but thats just my opinion. pink_magnetism 8 years It was ridiculous how much the bridesmaids had to be the same. Dress shopping was especially fun, since we haddifferent body types and different parts of the body we wanted to hide. lickety-split 8 years i told my bridesmaids to wear something dark green. i bought their jewlery and shoes and paid for their hotel (and airfare for one who was out of town and had a child, tight on money). then one bridesmaid forgot her jewlery on wedding day. her husband was going to go all the way home to get it and i said "it's okay, this isn't a drill team so no one's taking off points for being different". it's about friends and family velebrating with you the way you feel is important. some people have very specific ideas and i have always tried to go along with that. but i will offer this up; the more "perfect" the bride tries to make the ceremony, the shorter the actual marriage. pink_magnetism 8 years I was absolutely not allowed to cut my hair. All the stuff leading up to it was crazy, but on the actual wedding day it was good and a lot of fun. My cousin had to be bridesmaid for her boyfriend's sister(that she barely knew) and hated the whole experience. crispet1 8 years It can get a bit out of hand with all that you are expected to buy. peepshow 8 years I love going to weddings, and agree with Shiloh-- I like just being a guest. I spent over $1,000 once, and since then it's left a bad taste in my mouth. sexyeyes 8 years Both for sure... It can be fun and nice knowing the fact that this person considered you as her maid of honor which is nice but then you have to deal with the good and the BAD side of the bride. adrianam86 8 years It can be both but it really depends on the wedding, if the bride is a bridezilla or if her mother is the mother from hell etc. But i enjoyed being a bridesmaid for my cousin's wedding, the only part that i could have done without was when i had to help her hold up her huge wedding dress in the restroom stall so she could go...but other than that it was a great experience Shiloh-Jolie-Pitt 8 years I enjoy better being a guest :-) vmruby 8 years it can be both sometimes depending on the cicumstances. my experiences haven't been too bad but i've seen and heard of some stories that were real nightmares. karmasabitch 8 years Can be either or both depending on who is getting married. When my cousin got married she made the entire experience one big pain in the ass, and left everyone broke from her insanely expensive choices for dresses, shoes, etc. If the bride to be is relaxed it can be fun! Either way it's an honor to be a bridesmaid, but there are definitely times when you're wishing you weren't chosen! ;) Mme-Hart 8 years It's both, but the honour feeling last longer than the pain in the butt! I didn't have bridesmaids at my wedding, just a Maid of Honour who's only job was to sign as a witness. We had a very small wedding with only family and close friends so it was okay that we didn't have the big procession. I think they look pretty but it wasn't for me. I have enough bridesmaid's dresses hanging in the closet that I'll never wear again and I didn't want to do that to anyone else. Speaking of which, I have another wedding to be part of next summer in Canada. My husband and I want to start trying for kids and I don't know what to tell my friend if I'm too pregnant to fly over next summer. Argh...I've dropped the baby-hint bomb, but it's a tough situation! eye173candy 8 years Me* ;) eye173candy 8 years Yeah- My sister and I were never like the best of friends, its more em and my brother, but I still love my sister. She can be a handful, though- I was quite ticked when I found out I want her maid of honer, just a bridesmaid. But oh well. Cali I need to come up with a cute nickname for you! caligirl1201 8 years I wish I had a sister so I could be her bridesmaid but I've been promised by two of my bff's that I will be there's. Now if I could only get them a guy :) eye173candy 8 years I was a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding, and I loved every minute of it. wynter 8 years Both. bellstar 8 years You get to wear a fabulous frock (Vera Wang only please) and stand there looking pretty...how painful could it be?? lms 8 years I forgot to say...I voted for both an honor and pain depending on the situation. I've done it all..flower girl and bridesmaids a couple of times. lms 8 years When my brother got married I just assumed that I would get to be a bridesmaid, b/c we were extremely close. However, he married a b**chy, jealous woman. He actually asked me why would I have thought that I would have been one. They eventually asked me to be an usher...to which I refused. Oh well...she didn't want any one looking better than her..haha honey31 8 years I love being in weddings. LaylaCams 8 years I think both also, it depends on if there's a bridezilla envolved. malzie89 8 years hmmm i loved being a brides maid for my brothers wedding...i thought it was so fun...my sister however, hated it. i think it all depends on the bride pink_magnetism 8 years Both. I think it also depends how well u know the bride.