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Do You Complain to Friends About Your Weight?

I have a friend who is constantly talking to me about her quest to lose weight. She's been dieting with Weight Watchers and hitting the gym regularly, but the scale is slow to budge. When we go clothes shopping, she's always making negative comments about the parts of her body she wishes would shrink. I love that she feels comfortable blabbing about her insecurities, because let's face it — what woman isn't self-conscious about her appearance in some way? I too have struggled with losing weight at times in my life (post-college and post-babies), and as her friend and a fellow health-conscious person, I try to be supportive. Plus, she's a great friend to confide in when I've overdone it in the dessert department and feel like I need to wear my fat jeans. Sometimes talking about our weight issues makes us feel better, knowing we're not the only ones who wish the fat deposited in our tush would migrate to our bust. So tell me . . .

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benheld benheld 6 years
I don't really complain about my weight with my friends, but I do talk openly about trying to get healthy, lose weight, etc. So many people fail at weight loss because they don't build a support system. It's good to tell people about your goals, it adds a little accountability.
sourcherry sourcherry 6 years
No, mainly because I know I'll get annoyed looks because I'm skinny, and with clothes on I hide any couple of extra pounds well. But it doesn't mean I don't have them, and sometimes I wish I could share a little update on my fitness struggles like my friends do. But it's not a topic we talk about often anyway.
Allytta Allytta 6 years
of course. i do with my mum, my dad, my sister, my good male and female friends, my boyfriend. they all support me while i try to lose the weight. i know it annoys them that I don't try hard enough and listening to this for years might be too much... but hey :)
starbucks2 starbucks2 6 years
Worse, I complain to my boyfriend! I know I need to stop and it's basically just fishing for compliments...I'm working on losing the baby weight, though (10 pounds to go, I'm getting there) so I'm also bragging about how I lose 2 pounds this week to him ;)
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 6 years
Sometimes I'll have a whinge to my mates, mostly just me poking my belly and going "fatty fatty fat fat." Then I'll have a cup of tea, get over it and go for a walk. I never whinge to my partner however, his solution is to just stop eating. Uhm, wrong!
socalbeachgal socalbeachgal 6 years
That is what friends are for, but not the main topic or only topic of conversation. I did weight watchers with a friend so we had emails going back and forth on how we were doing.
Spectra Spectra 6 years
I don't complain about my weight any more, but when I was fat I would complain about my weight with some of my other fat friends. Mostly we just whined about how we "wished we were skinny and could eat whatever we wanted" because we thought that's what our friends did. My neighbor is always complaining to me about her weight and how she needs to lose a few pounds. It's really awkward because she really DOES need to lose a lot of weight, so I try to steer the conversation in a different direction. When my thin friends complain about their weight to me, I figure they're just looking for compliments, so I tend to ignore them.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
No, as I would have had my ass kicked. :) My problem was that I was underweight. Trust me, I wouldn't have received any sympathy. :) I have gained the coveted weight, so I'm content with my weight now. :)
itsallabouttheg itsallabouttheg 6 years
i have commiserated with friends about weight gain, but i never talk about the numbers. my friends and i don't really have similar body types, so it wouldn't really be helpful to do so. besides, there are 1000 other things i would rather talk with them about!
Purrsnickety Purrsnickety 6 years
Most of my close friends struggle with their weight or being consistent with exercising so we do all complain together. I think it's healthy to vent about your struggles rather than bottle it up. Especially when you have support from other people who struggle with the same thing so that you know you are not alone.
lilxmissxmolly lilxmissxmolly 6 years
Pre-having an eating disorder, I talked about weight all the time. And I was obnoxious. I now HATE when people talk about their weight. I've got news for you - unless you have a particular friend who is okay with that kind of behavior, it is NOT okay. Seriously. You never know what that person is struggling with inside, so except in special situations, keep it to yourself. I've stopped doing the whole "Oh, no, you look amazing! Stop!" thing, and it's funny how many people do it just to fish for compliments. I'll smile and nod or whatever, but I'm not going to participate in it. What I WILL participate in are productive changes people want to make - I want to run more. I want to lift more weights. I want to cut back on sweets. But I need to lose ten pounds, ugh I've gained five pounds - keep that crap to yourself.
tuliprush tuliprush 6 years
I hate when people complain about their body to me, and therefore refuse to complain about my body to friends/family. Like others above have pointed out, it makes the other person uncomfortable. I know when an overweight friend/co-worker complains about their body to me, or how they need to lose weight, I never know what to say. Should I be honest and say "Well, maybe you should put down the snickers bar that you're eating as you stand here complaining to me", or "How about you try...exercising??", or do you do the phony thing that they are really seeking, which is "No - you look fine. Don't be so hard on yourself." Either way, it comes off as fishing. If you want something bad enough for yourself, like being healthy or losing weight, you need to commit to it yourself - - - complaining about it to others isn't going to help you achieve it. www.gigsfitness.com
anecdote anecdote 6 years
yes...sometimes :) thats what friends are for! They always tell me if I have gained a few and encourage me to workout better or clean up my diet.
julea julea 6 years
When I was a kid, I was chubby, so I used to be the one always complaining to, well, everyone. Then my mother gave me advice that stuck with me (funny how the advice she gives me now doesn't seem as important, haha), that it makes other people feel really uncomfortable when you complain about things like that. Like, what are you going to say? It gets old to always be like "oh no, no, you are SO SKINNY omg" and if you say "well why dont you do something about it then?" you seem mean. stupid culture. i want to be that alwasy honest person, but I don't want to be seen as mean. so i just try to ignore when others say things like that and focus on what my body can do rather than what it looks like. If I'm going to complain, I'll say i FEEL gross TODAY, bc we have all been there, or that I really need to get in better shape because I get out of breath climbing stairs, or I'm proud of myself for doing more weights at the gym. ok /rant. sorry.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 6 years
I don't complain to my friends, but I don't mind when my friends complain to me. At least if they're talking about it, they're acknowledging the issue. What really bothers me is my best friend from college who's probably gained 50+ lbs in the last couple years and who is in complete denial. She insists she's just "big boned." I couldn't care less what she looks like, but it's very apparent that her health is not great, and I'm worried she's going to have diabetes in a few years. So, complete denial is far more annoying/worrisome to me!
zeze zeze 6 years
My friends are the kind of people that don't let you complain, they are always pointing out the positives in each other. So even if you've gained a few pounds, the 110lbs friend will sincerely point out how amazing your curves look in that low cut top or something.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 6 years
Nope. I find it annoying when people do it to me, so I don't do it to them either. If it comes up, I tend to change the subject.
TADOW TADOW 6 years
I was that friend that complained about their weight all the time. But then my friend started a healthy life style change and she was the one I used to complain to. So without knowing it, she motivated me to follow suit. So I've done a lot of things to become healthier overall and I don't complain about my weight, I get proactive. But I still understand the need.
laellavita laellavita 6 years
if my friends and i talk weight or body image, we always finish it with something proactive -- instead of being like, I'M SO FAT!! as we down a cupcake, it's more along the lines of, "LET'S GO TO THE GYM TOMORROW!"
Beaner Beaner 6 years
When friends of family members complain to me about their weight, I just try to give them some tips that helped me lose weight. Sometimes they get annoyed though and don't want advice — they just want to complain!
ticamorena ticamorena 6 years
Never have, never will! I don't mind friends asking me for ADVICE about losing weight or staying active & healthy, and likewise I'm always looking out for the same information. However, if you just want to complain and moan, you will get a very frank but sincerely meant "not interested" : )
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