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Fittingly Mad: Give Up Your Seat Already

I don't know about you, but I ride public transportation to work. It spares the air, it saves me money (parking is outrageous where I work), and I get to rub elbows with my community. What a rude community it can be too.

Twice this week, sitting quite far from the door where the seats reserved for the elderly and handicapped are I was the only commuter to offer up my seat to other riders in need. The first was for a woman carrying a sleeping baby while holding her toddler's hand. I had to practically yell through the crowded car to ask her if she would like my seat. Can you imagine trying to steady yourself and your kids during a bumpy ride with no free hands?

The second was for a very frail, yet elegantly dressed looking elderly lady. Sure she had fashion sense, but that doesn't translate into strength and stamina. She was clearly hurting on her feet.

I couldn't believe it!!!! Most riders are commuting to and from jobs where they sit all day. Standing up for 20 minutes shouldn't be that much of a challenge for them and obviously the polite thing to do is offer up your seat to folks who need it more - like folks with babes in arm, kids in tow or women old enough to be your grandmother or great grandmother.

Standing during a commute also burns some extra calories and works your core. Geesh, people. What ever happened to polite??? That is what I'd like to know.

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flojo flojo 9 years
i kinda agree with gold, some women (with no visible signs of prenancy) i'm talking no tummy in tight shirts here........ask for seats claiming they are pregnant.... it's kind of annoying
yayita yayita 9 years
Yeah ofcourse, I would it give it to hugely pregnant women as I stated. BUt not to the newly pregnant. Stand up! its good for you :p
miss-matilda miss-matilda 9 years
well I hope if you are ever in the same situation that no one gives you a seat either. Think about this for a second when your mother was pregant with you and about to give birth wouldnt you of wanted someone to give her a seat? Its not an easy time for women.
yayita yayita 9 years
unless theya re hugely pregnant, im talking about to pop
yayita yayita 9 years
Ummm, dont hate me but I dont give my seats to pregnant women either
miss-matilda miss-matilda 9 years
my friend was 9 months pregant and not only did no one offer her a seat but when she asked someone for one they said no!!!!!!!!!! she was almost immoble at that point and was only out to go to her last pre baby checkup!
duenow duenow 9 years
i am 7 mos. pregnant and i am not supposed to be standing on the bus because i have placenta previa, yet you would not believe the dirty looks i receive when i ask people who are sitting in "priority seating" to please give me their seat. generally speaking, only young females will stand up for me. i have NEVER had a man stand up for me or offer me a seat - which just goes to show you that chivalry is close to dead - if not dead already...
MandyJoBo MandyJoBo 9 years
I would offer my seat, but I totally see people's point about it possibly being offensive to some people. I don't live where there is public transportation, so I have no idea. I would be embarrassed if someone snapped at me after I offered them my seat! I guess I would have to toughen up and take the chance, because I'd rather be embarrassed once in a while than let an someone stand that should be sitting.
yamahamama yamahamama 9 years
I always give up my seat on the rare occasions I'm on public transit if someone needs it. I mean, I rarely use puplic transit due to my early hours, but if I do encounter a person who needs a seat, I give mine up. No big deal. I often think of old people as pseudo elderly relatives. It's fairly safe to assume they are someone's mother, aunt, grandmother, etc. & how would I like my frail mom to be treated? Disrespect of the elderly or infirm is just inexusible.
aistea311 aistea311 9 years
When I went to NYC this winter, an ass of a guy put his laptop bag on the seat next to him during the busiest time on a train to upstate new york. Everyone was practically standing, and this jerk.... anyway, all I know is, when I go on any form of transportation, I dont ask the elderly if they want my seat, I just eye at it to avoid any conflict.
katie225 katie225 9 years
i kind of agree with that old lady who sniped, "if i wanted your seat, i would have asked for it." if i were pregnant, injured, elderly, etc. i would ask for a seat, not expect people just to give it up. whenever i've asked an elderly person if they'd like assistance or anything like that, i've gotten dirty looks and an attitude. a lot of people who are disabled or elderly want to live an independent life and it's important to them to be treated like everybody else with no special treatment. however, i think most pregnant women WANT to feel special, so maybe asking them wouldn't be too bad. btw, public transportation in orange county sucks. i took the bus back from high school one year. i had to walk most of the way because there just weren't close enough bus routes. even worse than orange county is santa barbara. they're bus routes and times are just useless. the problem i've always had was that i had to work later into the evening (being a student), and bus routes stop around 8ish, leaving me stranded miles away at midnight. i need a car.
Beaner Beaner 9 years
Maybe people just don't realize that they're being rude (I don't know - I'm reaching here). Chivalry's not completely dead, is it?
GolferGirl GolferGirl 9 years
People are rude all over.
amanda02215 amanda02215 9 years
I agree. I ride public transportation for at least an hour each day, in heels, and I always stand so that people older than myself can sit. On the rare occasion that there are seats and I do sit, I am almost always standing by the time I reach my destination, having given up my seat to someone who needed it more than myself. I cannot believe how many teenagers sit on the train like they own it, clearly seeing elderly or handicapped people who need seats, and don't even offer to get up. It really disgusts me.
flojo flojo 9 years
oh yeah, some old people are pretty rude too, there's this lady who took up 3 seats and when i wanted to sit she told me i couldn't because she doesn't want to sit with anyone, and she was pointing at me with her stick trying to drive me away.... crazyy
flojo flojo 9 years
i'm sick of public transportation too, and i vow to myself to buy my parents car when they grow older so they don't have to take the bus..nothing fancy maybe smart cars. those things are adorable
JessNess JessNess 9 years
I always offer my seat. People are just rude. Thats why I always make a point to thank someone if they do give up a seat for me. Hey Bonne- to avoid the dirty look I always give up my seat before the old people get on. There are a lot of old people where I live because their is a retirment community and some of them are sassy. Along with the old people we also have a lot of handicapped and mentally challenged and usually people are good about giving up their seats but some are so rude I just want to slap them also I hate when people put their bags on a seat they are not using just because they dont want someone sitting next to them
cravinsugar cravinsugar 9 years
I agree with fit. I do sit, and when I ride it is during rush hour and normally there are no elderly that can't stand nor mothers with babies. There are pregnant women though, and I offer my seat to them, although I must admit, sometimesI am so engrossed in the paper or my sudoku puzzle I do not see others needing my seat. Most people on city transit are in the their own little worlds. Although, I was sitting behind a gentlement one day...he was wearing big jeans and a hoodie, and had his legs open wide enough to take up the space of both seats. Someone actually walked up to him and sat, MAKING him move is legs, and he still kept them opn and pushing agaisnt the passenger...that was the rudest thing I have seen yet... I'm all in.
vigilante vigilante 9 years
Used to use the TTC. Never sat. The constant starts and stops are great for core muscles. And the glutes. I was the darling of my pilates class because the instructor thought I practiced. Yeah, right! (Snort!). Where I live now there is no bus. No transit system at all. And I miss the workout. So people, if you've got it use it!
Bonne Bonne 9 years
While I agree with, there have been times when I would give up my seat and the elderly would tell me "If I wanted that seat, I would have asked for it" along with a dirty look.
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