POPSUGAR Food Poll After a Dinner Party, Do You Offer to Help Clean Up? by partysugar 4/30/09 0 Shares Like us on Facebook Source Read More DishwashingDinner PartyHostess EtiquettePartiesPoll POPSUGAR, the #1 independent media and technology company for women. Where more than 75 million women go for original, inspirational content that feeds their passions and interests. Get inspired with our daily newsletter Tech Love and Sex Food Vegetarian Home DIY Sign up with By signing up, I agree to the Terms and to receive emails from POPSUGAR. Allytta 6 years in my culture it's bad luck to let someone wash your dishes... for free. you have to pay them to lift the bad luck :) betty-kraker 6 years i end up helping betty-kraker 6 years i end up helping AmberHoney 6 years Yes! It's common practice amongst our friends/families. It must be done in our home cause it's too small not to and no room to enjoy dessert. We try and make it fun. Sun_Sun 6 years i usually just start helping if the hostess starts to clean up. If its really formal or someone i dont know at all I'll offer a few times and then sit my a$$ down if they say no. SweetFirefly 6 years It depends on who is hosting the dinner party. I think it's rude to offer if it's a formal dinner party. That would be insulting to the hostess for her guests to clean up the dishes/kitchen. It's okay to offer if it's informal. divinedebris 6 years If the host or hostess gets up and starts cleaning up, I'll get up and help regardless. That's just good manners. aimeeb 6 years Always! aimeeb 6 years Always! Spectra 6 years I always just get up and help if I'm at my parents' house or my inlaws' house, but if I'm at a friend's place, I ask before I jump in because they might have specific places for things or dishes that have to be washed in a special way. laurelm 6 years I am usually the host and I have some friends that just push me aside and clean up (i love them, lol)I think it is because I cook so much and have all the parties, my friends are more open and bold about helping as a thank you.When I am at someone else's I certainly offer to help- it is the polite thing to do. laurelm 6 years I am usually the host and I have some friends that just push me aside and clean up (i love them, lol) I think it is because I cook so much and have all the parties, my friends are more open and bold about helping as a thank you. When I am at someone else's I certainly offer to help- it is the polite thing to do. pharm_chick 6 years i always offer, and jump in many times as well. chiefdishwasher 6 years With my name....why do you think they invite me? nancita 6 years I have such a reputation for washing dishes that I now get yelled at whenever I approach the sink. Really, rather than getting yelled at for helping, I'd rather more people help ME when I have dinner parties. But alas, no one does. Zulkey 6 years skigurl sometimes I don't want someone to help me though--I don't want the conversation to be interrupted or I have a special way I want to do things or I need to do something in the kitchen--I think offering is right. I take help when I need it but I get annoyed when someone acts like they know best. gothamgal 6 years I offer about three times and then shut my pie hole. I love to help clean up, though, but I can understand if people don't want others in their kitchen, e.g., putting things away in the wrong place or constantly asking, "where does this go?" skigurl 6 years by offering, you're hoping they'll say noi normally just get up and help if the host has already risen skigurl 6 years by offering, you're hoping they'll say no i normally just get up and help if the host has already risen partysugar 6 years I'm with KWM, I love sitting at the table after dinner and don't mind leaving the plates there to be cleaned later. mamasitamalita 6 years I always offer to assist. when my boyfriend and I cook dinner together, one of us cooks and the other cleans -- that was HIS rule he implemented when we started dating and I'd cook to impress him :) MartiniLush 6 years I agree with the other commenters - it is just common courtesy to offer to help! If it is a good friend, I just jump right in and start helping out. Food 6 years Yes, I always offer! Sometimes I get turned down. ilanac13 6 years yes, i'll typically offer assuming that it's someone that i'm friendly with (vs. my husband's friends that i don't like). i think that it's nice to offer even though the host will typically shoo me away. bluebellknoll 6 years I always offer and if I see the host/hostess clearing the table I will help out.