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How Should You Notify Guests Where You're Registered?

How Should You Notify Guests Where You're Registered?

A friend of mine is getting married this Summer and is registered at several local and national stores. She nixed the idea of a wedding website (too cheesy) and felt it was tacky to advertise where she was registered with her invitation, so she's notifying guests of her registries only if they inquire. Her friends have also provided registry information for those who are attending her bridal shower.

I'm not married, but this situation got me thinking about the best way to spread the word about a wedding registry. How do you think guests should be notified?

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bisou002 bisou002 6 years
If you don't register, you could very well end up with 5 toasters or a whole bunch of duplicate items (or things that don't match) that you'll have to schlep to the store to return/exchange.
mommie mommie 6 years
Websites are very convenient especially for communicating with guests. Most people are very busy, they don't want to guess where to go for a gift. Its 2011. Most people ask if there is a website so why not. And, its more economical eco friendly than sending out more paper.
Segat1 Segat1 6 years
I don't like registries. Where's the surprise?
ewashi3 ewashi3 6 years
Overall, the respondents think putting it in the invitation is gauche. Emily Post says that sending the registry in the invitation is a no no, since it makes people feel like in order to come, they must buy something.'s a wedding, so people are already going to buy something. I think that the wedding site/ word of mouth are equally fine because they both involve the guest making the effort to look for the answer themselves.
runningesq runningesq 6 years
Never on the wedding invitation ! Word of mouth, shower invite is fine, wedding website works.
primerstar6 primerstar6 6 years
i don't mind a slip of paper included with the shower invite. however, when one of my cousins included about 5 of these slips, and two of them were for jewelry stores, i realized some people don't know where to draw the line.
Acid-Pops Acid-Pops 6 years
When my best friend asked me to be her MOH, I went out and bought 5 different books on bridesmaids'/MOH's duties. Some said it was tacky to include the registry card in the invitation and some said it was acceptable nowadays to include it. So I guess the concept of "proper etiquette" as regards this particular question is no longer set in stone and can be decided by those throwing the shower. Personally, I don't think adding a registry card to the invitation makes the bride look like she is fishing for presents as she is normally NOT the one sending out the invitations nor is she the one planning/hosting the event. She is the guest of honor and likely has little to nothing to do with the planning of the shower. In the case of my own MOH duties, I ended up adding the registry cards to the invitations as the entire "RSVP/by the way, the bride is registered at..." process would have been too complicated (I don't live in the country and was planning everything from abroad).
doogirl doogirl 6 years
It is tacky, tacky, tacky to advertise where you are registered! It makes it look like you are having a party to only get presents. Wedding showers are ridiculous also, you get presents when you get married, there is no reason to get presents twice! When I got married, my guests called me to find out where I was registered, that is proper etiquette!
pharm_chick pharm_chick 6 years
i agree with lilkimbo, as long as its not with the wedding invite itself. i never had a bridal registry, but personally if i did, i would tell people through word of mouth or with shower invites.
Spectra Spectra 6 years
We included a small card with the invitations, in with the RSVP card and directions to the reception.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years
I think any of the last three options are OK, depending on the couple.
fuzzles fuzzles 6 years
Outdoor location with guests. Plane with a banner. ;)
Soniabonya Soniabonya 6 years
We included the registry on a slip of paper with directions to our event site, the no child 10 and under rule, and hotel information. It was included with the invitation, but not on the invitation itself.
psterling psterling 6 years
advertising your registry is just tacky and frankly unnecessary since registries are so common nowadays that 90% of people will ask you or someone in your family/bridal party where you're registered. And that other 10% probably weren't planning to buy off your registry anyway!
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