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Let's Dish: What Are Your Party Planning Pet Peeves?

Let's Dish: What Are Your Party Planning Pet Peeves?

To celebrate my birthday, I invited everyone I know to join me for happy hour. I took the time to make and send a special invite. However, I was shocked by how many friends didn't read it. One person thought the party was the day I sent the invite, another went to the wrong bar, and two people showed up four hours after the specified time. Not reading an invitation is my biggest party planning pet peeve. I made it a point to provide all the necessary details, so why can't my guests take five seconds to read the text? Since we all host parties in some form or another, I'm sure you have party planning pet peeves, too.

So whether it's a guest that shows up empty handed or your roommate's uninvited friends crashing, do tell: When planning a party, what behavior bugs you?

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Rancher'sGirl Rancher'sGirl 6 years
Must vote for the lack-of-RSVP. I need to have a general idea how much food to prepare. I always fix a bit extra just in case, but I also don't want to go broke cooking way more than is needed, either. Also, people who invite their whole family and then some when a special occasion invite is just for the people listed, as in "Tiny and Toni" not "Tiny and Toni and their 3 teenagers and the boyfriends-of-the-week of those teenagers".
Soniabonya Soniabonya 6 years
Agree with the lack of RSVP. It's just rude.
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 6 years
As a lot of you have said, I also can't stand it when someone RSVPs and then doesn't show up...or shows up 2-3 hrs late! RUDE.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years
I agree, panda! I cannot stand BYOB parties. It's one thing if it's a small group of friends and you have an appetizer party once a month or something and the location just switches around, but I think it's so rude to throw a party for your birthday, New Year's, etc. and expect people to provide the drinks for you! Don't throw a party if you can't provide food/drinks.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years
I agree, panda!I cannot stand BYOB parties. It's one thing if it's a small group of friends and you have an appetizer party once a month or something and the location just switches around, but I think it's so rude to throw a party for your birthday, New Year's, etc. and expect people to provide the drinks for you! Don't throw a party if you can't provide food/drinks.
atpanda atpanda 6 years
Oh, and a pet peeve I have for people throwing a party: people who expect the guests to bring all the food and drinks. I'm fine with it if the theme is specifically a pot luck, but to throw a BBQ and say "Bring whatever you want to grill for yourself, and BYOB"? I don't think that's throwing a party.
atpanda atpanda 6 years
People who don't show up at the appropriate time. My in-laws consistently show up 15 minutes EARLY to parties (so the host is still getting ready), but my husband's coworkers (firefighters) consistently show up REALLY late. So if we have an open house starting at 5pm, they'll show up at 10pm (as if they were going out to a club).
Kimpossible Kimpossible 6 years
I used to have this friend ("used to" being the operative term), and whenever I would invite her to an event her response was always "I'll have to see if something else comes up".. that always seemed very rude to me. I mean if you haven't gotten any other invitations before mine, you're going to hold out and see if you get a better offer? Rude and hurtful imo. I don't throw parties anymore, all of our family is on the east coast (where we moved from), besides we're not really the party type.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 6 years
I used to have this friend ("used to" being the operative term), and whenever I would invite her to an event her response was always "I'll have to see if something else comes up".. that always seemed very rude to me. I mean if you haven't gotten any other invitations before mine, you're going to hold out and see if you get a better offer? Rude and hurtful imo.I don't throw parties anymore, all of our family is on the east coast (where we moved from), besides we're not really the party type.
Spectra Spectra 6 years
My biggest pet peeve is when we throw a party and ask everyone to bring something to pass and someone inevitably shows up with like, a pack of hamburger buns and still loads their plate up with brats, potato salad, burgers, etc. It's so cheap-looking and stingy. I also hate it when we have a BYOB party and someone brings, say, Old Style and drinks the Beck's that someone else brought. That's just unfair!
insanitypepper insanitypepper 6 years
My recurring party problem is that everyone always seems to have other plans on the day of my party. I've had to cancel parties a couple of times because only one or two people could make it.
pinkerbell03 pinkerbell03 6 years
My friends and I like to have theme parties, nothing big, but dessert parties, cocktail and apps parties... where it's obvious what you're supposed to bring. The same offenders will text one of us way after it started, ask if it's ok to show up still, and ... "can i bring anything?" uh, perhaps an app and a cocktail!?! grrr. non-RSVPers are the worst too, drives me crazy!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
Truthfully, I haven't experienced any party pet peeves. All my parties have been small and intimate -- good friends, and close family members. Everybody RSVP'd, and showed up on time.But you know, if anybody was rude, I wouldn't have them over again. It would be that simple for me. :)
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
Truthfully, I haven't experienced any party pet peeves. All my parties have been small and intimate -- good friends, and close family members. Everybody RSVP'd, and showed up on time. But you know, if anybody was rude, I wouldn't have them over again. It would be that simple for me. :)
darc5204 darc5204 6 years
I hate it when people show up really late to a dinner party, after everyone else is done eating. It also really rude when someone suggests a "better" way to do/make something.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 6 years
I hate people that bring other people who arent invited. There is nothing worse than having a family/friend get together and having one stranger chilling on the couch
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 6 years
When people say they will come and never show up. But my biggest pet peeve is when someone says they will come, and then ten minutes before the party begins they text: hey, i'm not going to make it (whatever excuse) and then "but have a great time! let's hang out soon. For some reason that "have fun! let's hang out soon" just annoys me to no end.
chiefdishwasher chiefdishwasher 6 years
When I throw a bacon dog feast my cart man needs to know how many dogs to wrap........so no RSVP no dog for you!
sweetpeabrina sweetpeabrina 6 years
RSVPing and not showing up is my pet peeve!
tarabara1229 tarabara1229 6 years
Ha mrsld, I was typing my comment and only saw yours after I posted! Looks like we both have the same problems haha
tarabara1229 tarabara1229 6 years
suuuuuure Alexis....jk!! That's actually happened to me before, when I went to a place called Green Street Tavern instead of the intended place, Green Street Restaurant (which, incidentally, isn't even on Green Street).Anywho, my biggest pet peeves are people who either don't RSVP but decide to show up anyway (empty-handed, no less) or those who do RSVP and then decide to flake out the day of.
tarabara1229 tarabara1229 6 years
suuuuuure Alexis....jk!! That's actually happened to me before, when I went to a place called Green Street Tavern instead of the intended place, Green Street Restaurant (which, incidentally, isn't even on Green Street). Anywho, my biggest pet peeves are people who either don't RSVP but decide to show up anyway (empty-handed, no less) or those who do RSVP and then decide to flake out the day of.
mrsld mrsld 6 years
No RSVPing. Is a big one for me or worse yet.Tell me you are coming and then don't show with no notice.And also my hubby has friends that come empty-handed (this does not bother me) and then get upset if I don't make their favorite item (this sends me over the edge)I have a few food items that are my "signature" dishes, but I get sick of making them and sometimes will have a party with only new recipes. This usually causes a stir. If they want certain things they should go to a restaurant or get their signif others to cook it for them!
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