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Party Foul: Assuming the Kids Can Come

Recently, I hosted an event where I wrote "Significant Others Welcome" on the invitation. You can imagine my annoyance and frustration when some people showed up with husbands and children. The party was a happy hour, an occasion that children do not normally take part in.

When you receive an invitation, it's important to read the fine print. One should never assume that a significant other or child is invited unless specified. The names listed on the outside of the envelope are the invited guests. If it says Mr. and Mrs. Smith, the Smith children are not invited. However, if addressed to The Smith Family, then the kids are welcome to attend.

Have you ever been in a similar situation? Share your stories with us below!

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muse2323 muse2323 7 years
My sister's wedding invitations specifically asked that kids be left home. They wanted a small, intimate wedding & reception and had managed to keep the numbers down to family and close friends; most neighbors and friends' parents weren't invited; some of them asked whether invitations had been lost, but graciously accepted the numbers crunch.Still, one of my sister's dearest school friends and her husband showed up not only with their 1.5-yr-old son, but also her parents! My parents and sister were gobsmacked. At least the kid was well behaved and entertaining.
muse2323 muse2323 7 years
My sister's wedding invitations specifically asked that kids be left home. They wanted a small, intimate wedding & reception and had managed to keep the numbers down to family and close friends; most neighbors and friends' parents weren't invited; some of them asked whether invitations had been lost, but graciously accepted the numbers crunch. Still, one of my sister's dearest school friends and her husband showed up not only with their 1.5-yr-old son, but also her parents! My parents and sister were gobsmacked. At least the kid was well behaved and entertaining.
missyd missyd 7 years
Nothing bothers me more than people bringing their kids to adult parties. It is selfish and disrespectful to everyone else. I have actually left parties because I felt uncomfortable drinking around a 5 years old. Come on. Some people are so brain dead
missyd missyd 7 years
Nothing bothers me more than people bringing their kids to adult parties. It is selfish and disrespectful to everyone else. I have actually left parties because I felt uncomfortable drinking around a 5 years old. Come on. Some people are so brain dead
DivaDivine DivaDivine 7 years
You have to understand that a significant other can be a child, parent, dog, whatever. Next time, do what my cousin did and explicitly write "Adults Only".
CarlyHP226685 CarlyHP226685 7 years
a couple people did that at my moms wedding. The invites said "no children under 16" because we didnt want to have screaming children running around. But of course there ended up being 2 sets of parents who figured that their kids would be fine to bring. Its so rude.
CarlyHP226685 CarlyHP226685 7 years
a couple people did that at my moms wedding. The invites said "no children under 16" because we didnt want to have screaming children running around. But of course there ended up being 2 sets of parents who figured that their kids would be fine to bring.Its so rude.
leahandcecilia leahandcecilia 7 years
I think etiquette is a dying art. People need to respect the wishes clearly stated in invitations, and when writing an invitation please be sure to be mindful of who you want attending. Many times an invitations comes to us as Mr. & Mrs. only, therefore, I get a babysitter only to be reamed for not bringing my daughter.. soo annoying. I thought the invitation above was very clear and anyone who brings extra or unstated people are just plain rude.
leahandcecilia leahandcecilia 7 years
I think etiquette is a dying art. People need to respect the wishes clearly stated in invitations, and when writing an invitation please be sure to be mindful of who you want attending. Many times an invitations comes to us as Mr. & Mrs. only, therefore, I get a babysitter only to be reamed for not bringing my daughter.. soo annoying. I thought the invitation above was very clear and anyone who brings extra or unstated people are just plain rude.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
you 100% do not need to be more specific than "significant other" - that is TOTALLY understandable and means YOUR DATE...more specifically it means your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife....it doesn't even really mean "your gay best friend" or "your girlfriend from work"....people who think it is vague are crazy and wackdoodle, your life sounds like a soap opera
skigurl skigurl 7 years
you 100% do not need to be more specific than "significant other" - that is TOTALLY understandable and means YOUR DATE...more specifically it means your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife....it doesn't even really mean "your gay best friend" or "your girlfriend from work"....people who think it is vague are crazyand wackdoodle, your life sounds like a soap opera
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
I've never had the kid problem myself (being 19), but I've had the Parent problem. My last birthday party I said on the invite that parents are welcome to drop in, have a chat and a drink with my folks, as none of my friends parents do and it ends up being a pretty lousy time for my Mum and Dad. But the parents of one of my friends took that small invite a little too far, they stayed the entire time (8 hours) and my friends step-dad ended up falling asleep on our lounge, in the middle of dinner. I was MORTIFIED! This year it's laser tag, parents play at their own risk.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
I've never had the kid problem myself (being 19), but I've had the Parent problem.My last birthday party I said on the invite that parents are welcome to drop in, have a chat and a drink with my folks, as none of my friends parents do and it ends up being a pretty lousy time for my Mum and Dad. But the parents of one of my friends took that small invite a little too far, they stayed the entire time (8 hours) and my friends step-dad ended up falling asleep on our lounge, in the middle of dinner.I was MORTIFIED!This year it's laser tag, parents play at their own risk.
TADOW TADOW 7 years
Be more specific.
TADOW TADOW 7 years
Be more specific.
wackdoodle wackdoodle 7 years
As far putting the term "significant other" that's TOO VAGUE. Be specific or you may get a dog, cat, rat, small child, someone's grandma. You cannot dictate the person that your friend may consider to be a "significant other". Personally, I do not take my boyfriend to parties with my younger friends. I take another male friend who is significant to me. I don't take the boyfriend because he's not comfortable with these friends, he's deaf and doesn't like the assumption that people make that he's a moron because he cannot hear, and he doesn't feel like trying to make other people comfortable with his deafness. Understood. I take one of my gay male friends or one of my nephews. If you only want bf/gf's or husband and wives to attend w/o their children or without anyone else then say so. And don't be surprised if they stop attending your functions.
wackdoodle wackdoodle 7 years
As far putting the term "significant other" that's TOO VAGUE. Be specific or you may get a dog, cat, rat, small child, someone's grandma. You cannot dictate the person that your friend may consider to be a "significant other".Personally, I do not take my boyfriend to parties with my younger friends. I take another male friend who is significant to me. I don't take the boyfriend because he's not comfortable with these friends, he's deaf and doesn't like the assumption that people make that he's a moron because he cannot hear, and he doesn't feel like trying to make other people comfortable with his deafness. Understood.I take one of my gay male friends or one of my nephews. If you only want bf/gf's or husband and wives to attend w/o their children or without anyone else then say so. And don't be surprised if they stop attending your functions.
wackdoodle wackdoodle 7 years
My parents used to regularly refuse invitations to functions at their friend's homes because they had five children. According to my dad their friends would say no children allowed on the invites but someone would always bring a child to the parties. The reason for the "no children" policy was that some of these parties were Swinger parties. My parents weren't into that- no "Ice Storm" for them. Now when I was 10,11,12 and I use to take care of my mom when she was wheelchair bound. So her friends knew that a child was going to be present if they invited my mom to their home. None of them ever had a problem with it. And after my mom died these adult friends of hers - my "aunts and uncles" are now my friends too. But when they would invite me to parties and gatherings as an adult and I was caring for my young nephews, I would ask if I could bring them because my sister was working and her husband was in a wheelchair and not completely comfortable with caring for two boys alone. Because of my mom they were comfortable with two little kids at their adult parties but I often wasn't. Those folks got older and got rowdier as their own children left the nest. For the most part in my family and among my friends and my sister's friends it's usually expected that if you invite the parent, you're inviting the child. So arrangements are made to have food especially for children and some sort of entertainment for children - breakables are put out of reach and doors to locked to rooms where no one should go. But people still ask if the can bring their children to whatever function - even though it's known that preparations have been made whether the child comes or not. But people in our group usually ask anyway - as a courtesy.
wackdoodle wackdoodle 7 years
My parents used to regularly refuse invitations to functions at their friend's homes because they had five children. According to my dad their friends would say no children allowed on the invites but someone would always bring a child to the parties. The reason for the "no children" policy was that some of these parties were Swinger parties. My parents weren't into that- no "Ice Storm" for them.Now when I was 10,11,12 and I use to take care of my mom when she was wheelchair bound. So her friends knew that a child was going to be present if they invited my mom to their home. None of them ever had a problem with it. And after my mom died these adult friends of hers - my "aunts and uncles" are now my friends too. But when they would invite me to parties and gatherings as an adult and I was caring for my young nephews, I would ask if I could bring them because my sister was working and her husband was in a wheelchair and not completely comfortable with caring for two boys alone. Because of my mom they were comfortable with two little kids at their adult parties but I often wasn't. Those folks got older and got rowdier as their own children left the nest. For the most part in my family and among my friends and my sister's friends it's usually expected that if you invite the parent, you're inviting the child. So arrangements are made to have food especially for children and some sort of entertainment for children - breakables are put out of reach and doors to locked to rooms where no one should go. But people still ask if the can bring their children to whatever function - even though it's known that preparations have been made whether the child comes or not.But people in our group usually ask anyway - as a courtesy.
LilGlamDiva LilGlamDiva 7 years
i went to a bridal shower one time, and it was borderline bachelorette party and people brought their children. I found it very strange, and would not want kids at mine..... call me selfish
AbbyHintz AbbyHintz 7 years
Shoneyjoe, bravo. I accidentally brought my 8-year old step son uninvited to a party, in this case, to my husband's friend's gathering. It happened like this: we got an invitation; the party was on "our weekend" to have our son. Matt decided he was going to ask if we could bring our son, so he asked his co-worker (the husband of the hostess), who said "fine." However, we arrived, only to find out that it was not fine. I felt guilty, rude, and embarrassed.
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