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365 Days to Sexual Satisfaction?

Even the most sexually-inclined couple is unlikely to fathom having sex every day for a year straight, but a recent article in the Style section of the New York Times discusses one couple who did just that. Charla Muller decided to celebrate her husband Brad's 40th birthday by giving him the gift that keeps on giving: sex, once a day for a year. And she followed through, too!

While it might be more exciting to say that the Muller's year of sex led to a level of sexual satisfaction neither had ever dreamed of, the results were actually a bit more subtle. Charla refers to it as "a really meaningful lesson," which according to the sex experts is to be expected. The article notes:

Shoshana Bulow, a psychotherapist and certified sex therapist in Manhattan, pointed out that sex is a lot more complicated than frequency. “There’s all sorts of reasons people lose interest in sex with their partner — disappointments, life cycles, financial issues,” she said. “Just having it isn’t going to resolve those.” Nonetheless, sex every day seems to have worked for the Mullers. Charla said:
It required a daily kindness and forgiveness, and not being cranky or snarky, that I don’t think either of us had experienced before.

Though the Mullers gained a new perspective, for some, 365 days of sex might be a deterrent to emotional connection, but what do you think? Is a sexual marathon brilliant for a couple in need of a relationship revamp? Are there any circumstances under which you would you be willing to give it a go?

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Lambsauce Lambsauce 7 years
I think I could do that--although the heaviest day of my period would be a "No Intercourse" day, just too painful--but I don't think my bf would be willing. My libido is quite a bit higher than his!
Sporky Sporky 7 years
I'm happy to say, my bf of 6 years and I have a "happy medium" situation, not a lot but not few-and-far-between, either. I think I agree with those who stated it might become a chore. I'm happy for those who have a high libido and a partner to match it, good for you!I recently had to have a hysterectomy (due to very bad endometriosis - I'm 39) and let me tell you, it really improved our sex life because (1) I was no longer in pain, which of course can really hinder sex and (2) no more periods. He never minded having sex while I was on my period, but I sure did, and not just because of the pain I felt (it was worse during that time of the month).
Sporky Sporky 7 years
I'm happy to say, my bf of 6 years and I have a "happy medium" situation, not a lot but not few-and-far-between, either. I think I agree with those who stated it might become a chore. I'm happy for those who have a high libido and a partner to match it, good for you! I recently had to have a hysterectomy (due to very bad endometriosis - I'm 39) and let me tell you, it really improved our sex life because (1) I was no longer in pain, which of course can really hinder sex and (2) no more periods. He never minded having sex while I was on my period, but I sure did, and not just because of the pain I felt (it was worse during that time of the month).
kiwitwist kiwitwist 7 years
bbkf - that is awesome! My hubby and I have been together 7 and married for 4. The only reason why I asked is because you couldn't keep us off eachother for the first 3 years and then we slowly slowed down. Most of my friends have completely turned sex to off. So, like I had said, I assumed it was the norm. Glad it isn't.Meike - I have been trying to get the TV & computer out of the bedroom but the hubby says "no". He doesn't believe that it affects our sexlife. :oy:
kiwitwist kiwitwist 7 years
bbkf - that is awesome! My hubby and I have been together 7 and married for 4. The only reason why I asked is because you couldn't keep us off eachother for the first 3 years and then we slowly slowed down. Most of my friends have completely turned sex to off. So, like I had said, I assumed it was the norm. Glad it isn't. Meike - I have been trying to get the TV & computer out of the bedroom but the hubby says "no". He doesn't believe that it affects our sexlife. :oy:
Meike Meike 7 years
And, Catepillar Girl, "too much" is a relative phrase. Good couples do what is healthy for themselves and their unique relationship.
FoxyJo FoxyJo 7 years
My boyfriend of three years does not care if it is that time of the month but honestly...I do (Well at least on the first day of my period) It doesn't gross me out because if I'm in the mood then I'm in the mood but it is painful for me (with cramps and all) So that day is pretty much a no sex day OR should I say a no intercourse day! LoL!! OK...TMI?? Well, all I have to say is that sometimes it's my boyfriend who is too tired to have sex. He works a very physical job that sometimes consists of being in hot attics or underneath houses. He is so funny...he tells me in my ear he's horny and ten seconds later he's snoring :) So, this might be a challenge for us BUT never say never!! But HOORAY for all married couples keeping the sex alive!
Meike Meike 7 years
"The longer the relationship the more sex gets pushed back." I disagree with this statement. I do agree with you that the more responsibilities and distractions a couple has, the more sex gets push back.It's pretty simple really why my husband and I have sex everyday. Substitute every TV, sports games, or any other unproductive hobby with sex. We're homebodies after work. Also, not having children plays a huge factor on how much free time we have and we intend to keep it that way. No offense to all the good parents. :)
Meike Meike 7 years
"The longer the relationship the more sex gets pushed back." I disagree with this statement. I do agree with you that the more responsibilities and distractions a couple has, the more sex gets push back. It's pretty simple really why my husband and I have sex everyday. Substitute every TV, sports games, or any other unproductive hobby with sex. We're homebodies after work. Also, not having children plays a huge factor on how much free time we have and we intend to keep it that way. No offense to all the good parents. :)
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 7 years
I dont like the idea, does that make me a horrible wife? Too much of anything is unhealthy, including sex. I would think all spontaneity would fly out the door and it would become a chore.
bbkf bbkf 7 years
kiwitwist- together for 6 years, married for 2.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 7 years
For all the girls who like sex daily, I would like to know how long you have been with your b/f's? Reason I ask is because as a lot of us have been in very long relationships. The longer the relationship the more sex gets pushed back. Not saying that is a good or bad thing, trust me I wish we were like the way we were but it just isn't possible. We have more responsibilities, less time and we have grown and changed. So, I am not judging anyone. More power to you if you can have sex daily. But it makes me 'assume' that you haven't been in a relationship that long. Again, I am assuming so don't bite my head off.
jillerin457 jillerin457 7 years
Um... I can understand why a guy might be grossed out by that. It's perfectly okay to have sex while the woman is menstruating, of course - there's nothing inherently "wrong" with that. But if one or both partners is turned off by it, that's perfectly understandable, too. Most bodily functions are, in fact, pretty gross. Vomit, urine, feces, mucous -- these are all completely natural, and we don't have to be "ashamed" if they come out of us. But we don't have to enjoy them, either. What the guy said was only bad in that he expected everyone to be like him sexually. But he is perfectly within his rights to be grossed out by it. I am, too, even though my bf isn't! (And for the millionth time, thank God for Nuvaring!)
jillerin457 jillerin457 7 years
Um... I can understand why a guy might be grossed out by that. It's perfectly okay to have sex while the woman is menstruating, of course - there's nothing inherently "wrong" with that. But if one or both partners is turned off by it, that's perfectly understandable, too.Most bodily functions are, in fact, pretty gross. Vomit, urine, feces, mucous -- these are all completely natural, and we don't have to be "ashamed" if they come out of us. But we don't have to enjoy them, either. What the guy said was only bad in that he expected everyone to be like him sexually. But he is perfectly within his rights to be grossed out by it. I am, too, even though my bf isn't! (And for the millionth time, thank God for Nuvaring!)
kikidawn kikidawn 7 years
very well put syako :) I totally agree!
kikidawn kikidawn 7 years
very well put syako :) I totally agree!
mondaymoos mondaymoos 7 years
bengalspice! :cheer:
mondaymoos mondaymoos 7 years
bengalspice! :cheer:
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 7 years
yo go bengalspice!I hate when guys get grossed out by that...It's a normal human function...
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 7 years
yo go bengalspice! I hate when guys get grossed out by that... It's a normal human function...
syako syako 7 years
I think the best way to deal with this topic (frequency of sex) is to just be respectful that not everyone is the same and not to call anyone names or think less of their relationship because the do or do not have the same frequency of sex as you.just my opinion.
syako syako 7 years
I think the best way to deal with this topic (frequency of sex) is to just be respectful that not everyone is the same and not to call anyone names or think less of their relationship because the do or do not have the same frequency of sex as you. just my opinion.
bengalspice bengalspice 7 years
My coworker was grossed out by this book when it was acquired ... because all he could think about is how they had sex while the woman was on her period. I called him an unintelligent prude.
bengalspice bengalspice 7 years
My coworker was grossed out by this book when it was acquired ... because all he could think about is how they had sex while the woman was on her period. I called him an unintelligent prude.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 7 years
I know skigirl!thank-you! I was starting to get worried we were weird or something hahaha.
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