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The 4-Way: Blind Love

Divine Caroline and I are back with another edition of the the 4-way. Enjoy!

Dear 4-Way,

If you’re on blind date and things aren’t working out, at what point in the date is it acceptable to end it? I have friends who do a lot of online dating and a few have told me that once they know there’s not a love connection, they tell the other person immediately so that nobody’s time is wasted. This seems kind of rude, although it does seem like it might be easier for everyone involved. What do you guys think?—BT in Atlanta, Georgia

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Dear BT,

I'm with your friends, BT — there's no use in wasting anyone's time if you know for sure that there's no connection. Since you don't know much about your blind date, I recommend keeping the first encounter short and sweet. Meet for a drink, a cup of coffee, or dessert instead of signing yourself up for a meal, movie, or night out on the town. I'm a firm believer of first impressions so if you're one that follows your gut instincts as well, chances are you'll feel the spark if there is one by the time you finish that first drink.

With that said, I think it's important to finish out the date you're on even if you're not interested — you don't want to leave the poor guy in the lurch — but if he asks you out again, don't hesitate to kindly decline. Being straight up and honest will only benefit you both.

And for the record, I'm with you Darren!

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emalove emalove 7 years
Yeah, I would finish the dinner or the drink (whichever we met up for) and then politely end the date.
Sporky Sporky 7 years
I'd sit through and insist on paying for my share.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 7 years
If I didn't have any other options for the night or something I'd rather be doing, I'd definitely sit through the entire date. At the end of the date I'd just say that I had a good time but I didn't think there was any chemistry.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
i'd sit through and try to enjoy the main part of the date (for example, dinner) but if he asks you to hit another bar for a drink or to go to a movie afterward i'd politely decline i would certainly think it's rude to bow out after the appetizers just because you don't feel a spark. try to enjoy his company, and if nothing else, have a good evening, even if nothing will come of it.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
i'd sit through and try to enjoy the main part of the date (for example, dinner) but if he asks you to hit another bar for a drink or to go to a movie afterward i'd politely declinei would certainly think it's rude to bow out after the appetizers just because you don't feel a spark. try to enjoy his company, and if nothing else, have a good evening, even if nothing will come of it.
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