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5 Kinky Ways to Surprise Him

5 Kinky Ways to Surprise Him

We're excited to welcome clinical sexologist and author of A Little Bit Kinky Dr. Natasha Janina Valdez for a week of guest blogging.

Whether it’s for a specific occasion, or for no reason at all, if you want to surprise your man and up the kink level in your sex life then try these:

  1. Set your phone alarm for an early wake up call and when it rings tell him it's time for his morning blow job!
  2. Offer to clean his car naked. And then do it. In the garage of course.
  3. Blind fold him and stimulate him with a bullet vibrator.
  4. Hire a stripper to dance for the both of you and when you start to get turned on or jealous have her take off and now get it on with your guy!
  5. On your next date wear a little black dress and no underwear. Carry your sexiest pair of panties with you and for dessert, hand them to him!

Dr. Natasha Janina Valdez is one of the nation’s leading sex experts and a certified clinical sexologist with a doctorate in human sexuality. Her new book A Little Bit Kinky is an imaginative and open-minded guide to exploring new possibilities in the bedroom and healthier relationships. Visit her online at drnatasha.com.

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Aleks63 Aleks63 4 years
Setting the alarm for a bj ? I'd rather sleep ...... the car cleaning thing? - my husband would make sure I finished cleaning it first !! LOL How about this? Wear some heels and an apron (and nothing else) while making breakfast........
Aleks63 Aleks63 4 years
Setting the alarm for a bj ? I'd rather sleep ...... the car cleaning thing? - my husband would make sure I finished cleaning it first !! LOL How about this? Wear some heels and an apron (and nothing else) while making breakfast........
Pistil Pistil 5 years
And with the stripper, it's the 'until you get jealous' part that gets to me. Still, this is nothing I haven't read in Cosmo, and everyone knows Cosmo is the epitome of sex.
Pistil Pistil 5 years
And with the stripper, it's the 'until you get jealous' part that gets to me.Still, this is nothing I haven't read in Cosmo, and everyone knows Cosmo is the epitome of sex.
Pistil Pistil 5 years
I think a blow job in the morning is fine, but Natasha, you really might consider rewriting/rewording some of these... because setting an alarm and announcing it makes you sound like a drill sargent, or like it's a chore or something.
KadBunny KadBunny 5 years
Oh no Dr., for the record I think 1 3 and 5 are hot (though I wouldn't take damned panties with me :P). I just think the car washing gig is so contrived I'd just burst out laughing if I ever tried it. He probably would too. The stripper thing is just a huge WTF but every couple is different I guess.But I don't really get how blow jobs in the morning are more or less "disgusting" than any old blow job?starbucks: bullet vibrators are designed for guys (though not exclusive to ;)). It's basically a uh c--k ring with a vibrating bullet attached. yep. ;p
KadBunny KadBunny 5 years
Oh no Dr., for the record I think 1 3 and 5 are hot (though I wouldn't take damned panties with me :P). I just think the car washing gig is so contrived I'd just burst out laughing if I ever tried it. He probably would too. The stripper thing is just a huge WTF but every couple is different I guess. But I don't really get how blow jobs in the morning are more or less "disgusting" than any old blow job? starbucks: bullet vibrators are designed for guys (though not exclusive to ;)). It's basically a uh c--k ring with a vibrating bullet attached. yep. ;p
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
Wait, WASHING a car or CLEANING a car? HUGE difference... In my part area, CLEANING your car means getting the hose attachments and sweeping under the seats... not sexy. Sorry if I misunderstood that one... a naked car wash with heels would be hot for him. Guys are simply like that. They like shiny cars and wet flesh.Do you have a chance to go back and edit this book before it's published? Just to change that whole 'clean the car' part?My thing with the stripper is, why pay $300+ for her to come to your house, when you could pay less than $80 for his admission, drinks, tips, dances and atmosphere. From what I understand, a chick earns about $250 plus $20 per lap dance to come to a bachelor party. I'm talking common sense economics here.You also get to pick your chick out TOGETHER... and you can get dances from bunches of different girls. Not if it makes you jealous though, just if it turns you on. You risk screwing up your relationship if you make yourself jealous.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
Wait, WASHING a car or CLEANING a car? HUGE difference... In my part area, CLEANING your car means getting the hose attachments and sweeping under the seats... not sexy. Sorry if I misunderstood that one... a naked car wash with heels would be hot for him. Guys are simply like that. They like shiny cars and wet flesh. Do you have a chance to go back and edit this book before it's published? Just to change that whole 'clean the car' part? My thing with the stripper is, why pay $300+ for her to come to your house, when you could pay less than $80 for his admission, drinks, tips, dances and atmosphere. From what I understand, a chick earns about $250 plus $20 per lap dance to come to a bachelor party. I'm talking common sense economics here. You also get to pick your chick out TOGETHER... and you can get dances from bunches of different girls. Not if it makes you jealous though, just if it turns you on. You risk screwing up your relationship if you make yourself jealous.
Jmartens Jmartens 5 years
Doc (#16)...you hired a friend to dance for your bf? WEIRD! Guess you just weren't enough to keep him satisfied!
jocupcake jocupcake 5 years
# 4 is ridiculous. I will never understand why anyone (especially a sexologist) would tell a woman to do things that will make her jealous/uncomfortable. No one is telling men to hire sexy guys to help turn on their gfs.
Jmartens Jmartens 5 years
some of these are so odd! Clean the car naked? I'd think that would be low on the list for most guys.
Torbach Torbach 5 years
i don't give a girl any pleasure in the morning either Starbucks...oral on a "ripped tennis ball" before she showers EWWWW! So i suppose i'm a sophisticated Man? better then the rest, i'm not a "skank" either right?? Or maybe the whole fact that you think normal activity in the morning is "Ho"-ish IS the sexist problem in this country?prude.
Torbach Torbach 5 years
i don't give a girl any pleasure in the morning either Starbucks...oral on a "ripped tennis ball" before she showers EWWWW! So i suppose i'm a sophisticated Man? better then the rest, i'm not a "skank" either right?? Or maybe the whole fact that you think normal activity in the morning is "Ho"-ish IS the sexist problem in this country? prude.
starbucks2 starbucks2 5 years
What is a bullet vibrator? My man actually respects me and doesn't want me to act like a ho, washing the car naked Jessica Simpson-style? Hell no! Blow jobs in the morning? Eww! He'd never tell you I'm a prude, but I know how to be kinky without being a ridiculous mess!
starbucks2 starbucks2 5 years
What is a bullet vibrator?My man actually respects me and doesn't want me to act like a ho, washing the car naked Jessica Simpson-style? Hell no!Blow jobs in the morning? Eww!He'd never tell you I'm a prude, but I know how to be kinky without being a ridiculous mess!
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 5 years
#3...Ummmm....that might not be a <em>welcome</em> surprise.
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 5 years
#3...Ummmm....that might not be a welcome surprise.
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