Donna Sozio, coauthor of The Man Whisperer, believes we can improve our romantic relationships by playing into gender roles. I'd rarely advocate something so sexist sounding, but the longer I talked to Donna the more convinced I became she was onto something. Maybe good advice just gets lost in books with gimmicky titles?
Her message is simple: men want to be providers, fixers, and impressive, so let them. Leave dominating communication styles at the office, and use a gentler approach at home. That includes letting him feel he's taking care of you, even when you both know you're completely independent.
When it comes to gift-giving during the holidays, Donna says, men want to wow us. "Never outgift them," she says, "It steals their thunder." Apparently, stealing a man's thunder makes him feel less confident and less secure in the relationship, which we all know spells trouble for us later on.
So if it's better for him, the relationship, and our unsecured debt, could it be that bad?