We're happy to present this excerpt from one of our favorite sites, The Good Men Project. Harris O'Malley explains that what makes a "bad boy" so appealing isn't his badness, it's something even nice guys can do, too.
If there is one thing that men, especially nerdy, geekier men — men more prone to be Nice Guys and White Knights — will complain about when it comes to their dating problems, it's that women don't like "nice" men. No, frustrating the millions of men who heard "I wish I could meet a nice guy like you" and took it too much to heart is the way that the "bad boy" seems to win women's hearts and loins.
There is no dating cliche older or more lingering than the appeal of the "bad boy." One of the most defining characteristics of known rake Lord Byron is that he was famously "mad, bad and dangerous to know."
It's a subject that I have talked about before: the idea that all women love assholes and that this is programmed into them genetically; after all, assholes are often more "alpha" than the Nice Guys who complain about them, therefore it is their inevitable destiny to fall for them . . . usually on their backs. Therefore the key to being more attractive is to be "bad."
It's a short-sighted solution that builds on a collection of mistaken assumptions reinforced by confirmation bias and poor understanding of human sexuality and evolutionary psychology . . . but it's not entirely wrong.
In fact, the appeal of the "bad boy" is something that psychologists and sociologists have been interested in for quite some time. And it seems as though they may have found some interesting answers.
Read the rest of The Appeal of "Bad Boys" over at The Good Men Project.