Dear E. Jean --
I’ve been in a relationship with a woman for about 5 months. Things have been great, until it comes to her ex-boyfriend. She revealed to me that even though they’ve been broken-up, and he lives with another woman, that they’ve enjoyed a sexual relationship, (friends with benefits) until I came into the picture. She swears that they’re just very good friends, and I have nothing to worry about.
But over half the times we’re out, he’s called. I’ve caught him driving by her work more than once. Two weeks ago, I became very angry, and told her either him or me. She left him a voice mail saying they couldn't hang out or talk anymore, but ever since then, we have not been on good terms. She thinks I’m controlling but I feel their relationship is so friendly, it’s inappropriate. I admit, I do have jealousy issues, but am I wrong to tell them to stop?
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Let me put it this way: If you don’t grow a pair of gooblies, set this young lady straight, and tell her to cease her inane bellyaching for her “friend,” old Eeee Jean is going to “drive by her work,” and give her a bop on the forehead with one of your old jock straps.
The woman’s running amok. Her ex-lover calls half the times you’re out? Gah! He’s slinking around her job? Lord! Unless she cuts him off, cold, she’s not the woman for you. You sound like a solid, understanding, upright, true-blue guy. You deserve better.