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Ask E. Jean for DearSugar: We Met the Same Guy Online

Dear E. Jean,

My best friend was engaged for a year-and-a-half to a guy, a real jerk, who dumped her for his female boss. He and his boss are now in Paris on their damn honeymoon. Needless to say, my friend’s been catatonic throughout the holidays. Finally, yesterday she called me all excited, saying she met someone online and they’ve been sending e-mails back and forth. I said, “Great! Fantastic!” Then she said, “You gotta see him, look him up on my Facebook.” I said, “What’s his name?”

E. Jean: It’s a guy who’s been asking me out! He’s not on my Facebook; I met him on, and he asked me to go to a party on Saturday. This is the weirdest situation I’ve ever been in in my life. My friend and I look something alike (the guy obviously likes Asian chicks), and there’s no law against a guy sending e-mails to two girls, but what do I do now? I kinda like the guy.

My friend and I went to college together. We have a very small social circle, and we even dated the same guy in grad school. Should I tell her? Maybe she won’t care. Maybe she’ll think it’s funny, right? The point is, would it be horrible of me to go out with him on Saturday? I’d love to get a date lined up for New Year’s Eve, and this guy is hot. What’s the etiquette here? — Want to See the Ball Drop

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Miss Ball, My Begonia,

Back off, sister. Your friend’s heart has been put through the meat-grinder. “Finally” she meets a nice chap, she’s “all excided” . . . and you’re asking Auntie Eeee if she’ll think his asking you out is “funny.”

Ditch him. No dude’s worth it. There are a million hot guys. But only one best friend.

P.S. And do not tell her! Gawd!

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