Thanks to a reader with an issue (sorry, reader!), we have an awkward scenario for you that she needs you to weigh in on.
My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. I've met his family, I know his friends and have become friends with many/most of them as well, and things are really going well with us. One of his friends who I have not met is getting married at the end of the month. The bride and groom are both friends of his from college, and I am close with other people who will be attending this wedding. We do not live together, and I am his "plus guest."
A week ago, he mentioned to me what gift he picked out from the couples' registry and asked my opinion. I approved and he said something to the effect of, "Great, it was just about $200 so you can just give me $50 for it since you don't really know them." I brushed it off at the time, but it's been irking me more and more as time goes on. These are not people I know, these are not friends of mine, and if her family were not generous enough to offer to invite a guest, I would not even be going to this event.
It is not about the money (I am happy to spend $50 towards a wedding present), but am I in the wrong for bristling at this assumption of his?
Have you been in this awkward situation? Has a boyfriend asked you to pay for something in such a way that put you off? How did you deal with it?