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Awkward! My Date Invited a Friend to Our Date

Thanks to a reader with an issue (sorry, reader!), we have an awkward scenario requiring your advice. (Interested in this subject? Join our Awkward! group to share etiquette questions and stories with other readers.)

"I've had a crush on this guy for a while, and I haven't been able to tell if we're just friends, or if it's headed in a romantic direction (which is where I want it to go). We went out for drinks one night, and something seemed to have shifted. Maybe it was my imagination, but I felt like we were both really flirting with each other. I thought it was confirmed when he invited me to the movies the next weekend. So imagine my surprise when I get to the theater, and he's there with another friend — a girl! I really thought we were on a date. Now I don't know how to behave around him. Should I just chalk this up to a miscommunication and move on?"

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skigurl skigurl 6 years
he def doesn't want anything romantic because if he did, he would have made damn sure he got you alone!!!!!! he just thinks you're friends, hence why he figured it would be normal to add another "friend" to the mix....
skigurl skigurl 6 years
he def doesn't want anything romantic because if he did, he would have made damn sure he got you alone!!!!!!he just thinks you're friends, hence why he figured it would be normal to add another "friend" to the mix....
TidalWave TidalWave 6 years
I'm thinking that the original poster missed something in the conversation. That maybe he did say "we should get some people together and watch this movie" or "Some of my friends want to see that movie too". I also agree that just watching a movie, not involving dinner or drinks afterward or anything like that isn't a date and meeting her at the theatre was definitely a red flag.
TidalWave TidalWave 6 years
I'm thinking that the original poster missed something in the conversation. That maybe he did say "we should get some people together and watch this movie" or "Some of my friends want to see that movie too". I also agree that <i>just watching a movie</i>, not involving dinner or drinks afterward or anything like that isn't a date and meeting her at the theatre was definitely a red flag.
mix-tape mix-tape 6 years
I agree, he is definitely just in it for the friendship. But there is the stage in a new relationship where you want to invite the person to meet your friends too. However, given this is so early and he brought only one friend and a female at that... I would just chalk it up to mixed signals and move on!
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 6 years
I've done what this guy did before. Sometimes when I like a guy as a friend and want to hang out, but don't want to date him, I'll invite people along trying to send the message that "we're just hanging out." This makes me reconsider that idea though!
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years
I agree with what others have said; he probably just doesn't want anything romantic. I have to add, though, if you enjoy his company, you should continue to be his friend, just make sure you keep in mind that he's not interested in a romantic relationship.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years
I agree with what others have said; he probably just doesn't want anything romantic.I have to add, though, if you enjoy his company, you should continue to be his friend, just make sure you keep in mind that he's not interested in a romantic relationship.
vmruby vmruby 6 years
I think the fact that he had you meet him at the theater instead of actually picking you up like most guys do on "real dates" is a good indication that he had nothing serious in mind.My advice to you is to quit crushing on him and move on......
Angelica Angelica 6 years
Yeah, I have done this to guys and it's for all the reasons JCPO24O mentioned. Definitely a way (albeit totally passive aggressive) to create a divide and show there's no romantic vibe.
JCP0240 JCP0240 6 years
This picture reminds me of Teen magazine or ym haha. But yes I think he sent you mixed signals and probably isn't interested in a romance. If he really liked you he would make it clear and not bring another girl along to the movies. I know my guy friends can be flirty but that doesn't necessarily mean that they are interested in a romance.
JCP0240 JCP0240 6 years
This picture reminds me of Teen magazine or ym haha. But yes I think he sent you mixed signals and probably isn't interested in a romance. If he really liked you he would make it clear and not bring another girl along to the movies. I know my guy friends can be flirty but that doesn't necessarily mean that they are interested in a romance.
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 6 years
he's immature and doesn't understand "grown up" dating. groups of friends at the movies is for people already in relationships, or eighth graders. move on.
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