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Awkward! My Friend Keeps Oversharing Her Sex Life

Thanks to a reader with an issue (sorry, reader!), we have an awkward scenario requiring your advice. (Have some awkward tales of your own? Join our Awkward! group to get etiquette advice from other readers — that's where we got this gem!)

"I have this really good friend. I love her to death, but she tends to overshare with me, and it's pretty uncomfortable at times. Every time she has sex, I get a text. "Just had amazing sex!" "He's soo great in bed . . . just had the best sex ever!" (Just some of the examples that come to mind.) I get one of these texts almost daily, and it really drives me nuts. I'm afraid that if I say this to her she'll think she can't tell me anything. (She tends to react dramatically.) We are really close and do share a lot, but I don't need an update everytime she gets it on. I don't know what to do!"

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gigilgirl gigilgirl 6 years
OMG! She updates you daily with her sex life? So she has sex daily with random men or the same guy? That's so awkward!!! Since you're close you can tell her off!
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 6 years
PhillyEagles1, that's brilliant! Though I'd send a text saying "Some days, the most satisfying thing I do is drop the kids off at the pool." I had a friend who would do this, she was a lesbian and was a bit grossed out by "straight love", so I'd drop her a text describing my bedroom happenings whenever she decided to "enlighten me." Took about three text messages for her to stop.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 6 years
PhillyEagles1, that's brilliant! Though I'd send a text saying "Some days, the most satisfying thing I do is drop the kids off at the pool."I had a friend who would do this, she was a lesbian and was a bit grossed out by "straight love", so I'd drop her a text describing my bedroom happenings whenever she decided to "enlighten me."Took about three text messages for her to stop.
MsChoo MsChoo 6 years
I was thinking the exact same as PhillyEagles1. give her a taste of her own medicine
bubblyw bubblyw 6 years
You could tell her it costs you money to receive texts and she needs to cut way back. Maybe it's true, and she should understand tough times, etc.When people are dramatic like that, they don't really give you the choice to tell the truth, so you just have to be... politely tactful to correct the situation.
bubblyw bubblyw 6 years
You could tell her it costs you money to receive texts and she needs to cut way back. Maybe it's true, and she should understand tough times, etc. When people are dramatic like that, they don't really give you the choice to tell the truth, so you just have to be... politely tactful to correct the situation.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 6 years
.. I meant to say: If she gets mad at you after you tell her to stop that.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 6 years
If she's mad at you, you'll know she was only doing it to brag. How obnoxious. Maybe you should find more tactful friends.
AlexisSF AlexisSF 6 years
right there with you CaterpillarGirl — if you don't like what she does, tell her to stop — it's really just that simple.
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 6 years
I agree with CG, just text her back and say something like CG suggested. If she is as good of a friend as you say she is she will understand and respect how you feel.I don't think you should start over sharing with her. If she is the type who likes to over share she might take your sharing as reinforcement and she might start telling you even more. I have had this happen to me.
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 6 years
I agree with CG, just text her back and say something like CG suggested. If she is as good of a friend as you say she is she will understand and respect how you feel. I don't think you should start over sharing with her. If she is the type who likes to over share she might take your sharing as reinforcement and she might start telling you even more. I have had this happen to me.
skigurl skigurl 6 years
if you don't want to say anything, then you just have to deal with it...and really, while it's kinda stupid that she's oversharing, it's not that big a deal..just delete them and don't respond...if you're pretty close and share a lot she probably doesn't know it bothers you and you can't be that grossed out by it...she's not giving details, she's just sharing her "good news"
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 6 years
lord another person on here who cannot stand up for themselves, Listen if she texts you those things, Text back "I dont care, TMI" and thats that. its not rocket science, and i guarantee she wont be mad at you.
vmruby vmruby 6 years
I had a friend years ago who would announce it to anyone who listened and I handled it in a similar manner as poster #2 mentioned. It certainly got her attention and I never heard a word about it again.....
vmruby vmruby 6 years
I had a friend years ago who would announce it to anyone who listened and I handled it in a similar manner as poster #2 mentioned.It certainly got her attention and I never heard a word about it again.....
weffie weffie 6 years
Bahahaha PhillyEagles - "Best dump of my life!" just got me in trouble for LOLing in the office :) You could always suggest she updates ijustmadelove.com so you can keep track of her sexcapades at your convenience... or just start replying with, like, "Maybe you did, but Beyoncé had some of the best sex OF ALL TIME!"
weffie weffie 6 years
Bahahaha PhillyEagles - "Best dump of my life!" just got me in trouble for LOLing in the office :)You could always suggest she updates ijustmadelove.com so you can keep track of her sexcapades at your convenience... or just start replying with, like, "Maybe you did, but Beyoncé had some of the best sex OF ALL TIME!"
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I agree with Hiding55. Also, I empathize with the OP. I met someone who overshared about her sex life, and it was discomforting to say the least.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I agree with Hiding55.Also, I empathize with the OP. I met someone who overshared about her sex life, and it was discomforting to say the least.
PhillyEagles1 PhillyEagles1 6 years
I think you should do the same thing back to her. Just do it after every time you use the bathroom."OMG just had an amazing shit!""Best dump of my life!"
PhillyEagles1 PhillyEagles1 6 years
I think you should do the same thing back to her. Just do it after every time you use the bathroom. "OMG just had an amazing shit!" "Best dump of my life!"
Hiding55 Hiding55 6 years
I would just tell her in a very friendly manner that you know she has awesome sex and you don't need to hear about it every single time. If she gets offended I'm sure she'll get over it in a few days. Some people are just more open with that kind of stuff than others. The fact that you let it go on so long is just encouraging her to keep on sharing. If she doesn't know she's making you feel uncomfortable then she's not going to stop. Speak up or just ignore the texts.
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