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My friend just vented to me about her married friends who like to divulge details about their sex lives without realizing that they're sharing way too much! (Sound familiar?) Here she described her dilemma:

"My good friend just sent me an email telling me that she and her husband are 'trying' for baby number two. She went on to tell me that they've been 'working on it' for a month now, and she assured me that she will keep me updated. Why do all my married friends think that it's suddenly not awkward to talk about their sex lives when there's baby-making involved! Not OK!"

Do you have any advice for my grossed-out friend? Do you think she's overreaching, or is she justified to feel like this is TMI? (And if you have some awkward tales of your own, join our Awkward! group to share etiquette questions and stories with other readers.)

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Love-and-Sex Love-and-Sex 6 years
Spacekat — you wouldn't believe how many of those photos there are. We will never run out! :)
skigal214 skigal214 6 years
I think you might be overreacting a touch. If they're trying to have baby #2, that's all she can think of right now. The "sex" is secondary. It's not that she's telling you about the positions and duration of it. And I agree, aren't you friends? Isn't that one of the things friends talk about?
starbucks2 starbucks2 6 years
I'm with earnold here. My friends and I talk about sex all the time. Although trying for a baby is not about the positions or lubricants. It's about creating new life! You should know your girlfriends well enough to know if they would feel uncomfortable about that kind of information though.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I'm in the minority here. I think the friend is oversharing. Generally, I consider bedroom life personal and private (which includes baby making). I know many women are different, though. I guess I'm just wired differently.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I'm in the minority here. I think the friend is oversharing. Generally, I consider bedroom life personal and private (which includes baby making).I know many women are different, though. I guess I'm just wired differently.
earnold14 earnold14 6 years
Me and my girlfriends talk about sex all the time - before and after marriage. What changed? I suppose if you never talked about it in the first place, then yeah, suddenly bringing it up would be awkward.
vmruby vmruby 6 years
So whats the big deal .I don't think your friend is overdoing it at all. From what I read it's not as if she's giving you the "gory" intimate details.All she's doing is sharing a possible life altering,joyous experience with someone she obviously considers a close friend . Nothing wrong there. She's really excited so cut her some slack.As for you OP, you seriously need to lighten up a little.....
vmruby vmruby 6 years
So whats the big deal .I don't think your friend is overdoing it at all. From what I read it's not as if she's giving you the "gory" intimate details.All she's doing is sharing a possible life altering,joyous experience with someone she obviously considers a close friend . Nothing wrong there. She's really excited so cut her some slack.As for you OP, you seriously need to lighten up a little.....
ali321 ali321 6 years
I was expecting graphic details or something. Saying that you're "trying for a baby" is not a big deal. I don't really think she's trying to even tell you she's having sex. It's probably just that she is excited to become pregnant and have a baby.
juicebox07 juicebox07 6 years
I see nothing wrong with this friend sharing this information, and you're just overreacting. You're supposed to be a good friend, and she just wants someone to share the excitement with. She's just trying to keep you updated on her road to motherhood.
Pistil Pistil 6 years
People like to talk about stuff. You called her a "good friend"... who else are you supposed to share these things with?? I know way too much information about some of my best friends, it doesn't bother me. If it makes you that uncomfortable, find some friends who are more discreet, or quiet.
skigurl skigurl 6 years
what's with all the posts lately about people being so worked up about the oversharing/too close for comfort/no boundaries friends? this is totally not a big deal. it's way less gross to talk about concieving a baby than it is to talk about clubbing and one night stands, like notinthemood said i know some people are "sensitive" and more square than other people, but if these people are your friends, i don't see why you would have become friends in the first place if you aren't on the same level that way
skigurl skigurl 6 years
what's with all the posts lately about people being so worked up about the oversharing/too close for comfort/no boundaries friends?this is totally not a big deal. it's way less gross to talk about concieving a baby than it is to talk about clubbing and one night stands, like notinthemood saidi know some people are "sensitive" and more square than other people, but if these people are your friends, i don't see why you would have become friends in the first place if you aren't on the same level that way
Smacks83 Smacks83 6 years
#7, thank you for pointing out why Anon comments can suck.I can sorta understand where she is uncomfy and think Mamacita's advice is spot on. The way I see it its kinda the same as if someone with bad back problems kept telling their friends "Oh yeah, Rob been really helping me relax more. He makes sure I'm really relaxed like five times a week!"Let her know you are happy that they are planning (not "working on it") having a baby and you can't wait to hear the final outcome of when she is, but you also prefer not knwoing about everytime they "try",lol.
Smacks83 Smacks83 6 years
#7, thank you for pointing out why Anon comments can suck. I can sorta understand where she is uncomfy and think Mamacita's advice is spot on. The way I see it its kinda the same as if someone with bad back problems kept telling their friends "Oh yeah, Rob been really helping me relax more. He makes sure I'm really relaxed like five times a week!" Let her know you are happy that they are planning (not "working on it") having a baby and you can't wait to hear the final outcome of when she is, but you also prefer not knwoing about everytime they "try",lol.
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 6 years
agreed with the others, but obviously this IS an issue for you. since you feel uncomfortable, tell your friend -- "You know, I'm really happy that you two are trying to expand your family, but I'm a little uncomfortable with a play by play of your attempts. I can't wait for the exciting news when you get pregnant."
notinthemood notinthemood 6 years
Yeah, it's not a big deal. Single people talk about going out to clubs and bars, married people talk about trying to make babies... sex is sex, you know? Is this friend perhaps jealous that her friend is married, and offended at hearing anything about being married until she's hitched as well?
kismekate kismekate 6 years
Yah, I'm not understanding the issue here.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years
I agree, spacekat. I could see where details might make you uncomfortable, but I don't think saying you're trying to have a baby is oversharing at all.
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