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Beautiful Women and the Average Joe

Yesterday the Daily Mail pointed out an interesting study done by the University of Tennessee discussing the relationship between beautiful women and their arguably less attractive beaus — think Catherine Zeta-Jones and Michael Douglas. The study made a very interesting argument about why beautiful women might be more comfortable with a run-of-the-mill guy. The article writes:

Men who saw themselves as better looking than their wives were more likely to be disgruntled and and have negative feelings about their marriage.

While researches pointed out that attractive men can easily find another mate and thus aren't as committed, I personally think anyone who assumes that they're too good for their partner is going to bring negative energy to a relationship no matter what. So what are your thoughts on the fuss over beautiful women being with so-called unattractive men? We see it all the time, but why is it so shocking?

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thegiraffe thegiraffe 8 years
There are two more explanations for this. ANY guy, no matter how average looking he is, seems to want THE most beautiful girl in the world. I remember some of my guy friends in high school and college, they would go after THE most beautiful girls in the school, but they would be really, really ordinary guys. I never said it out loud but I was like, ahem, she is not going to go for you dear. But they were just determined, not willing to hear it. Every guy feels he deserves a beautiful girl. Having a beauty on their arm makes a guy feel proud of themselves and her. It will make people wonder, wow, if that chick digs him he must have something special! all of them want pretti(er) women.The other reason lies with women themselves. All women want to FEEL beautiful too. Even if it's on a subconscious level, being with an average guy will make them look MORE beautiful in comparison, rather than competing with him in the beauty department.
thegiraffe thegiraffe 8 years
There are two more explanations for this. ANY guy, no matter how average looking he is, seems to want THE most beautiful girl in the world. I remember some of my guy friends in high school and college, they would go after THE most beautiful girls in the school, but they would be really, really ordinary guys. I never said it out loud but I was like, ahem, she is not going to go for you dear. But they were just determined, not willing to hear it. Every guy feels he deserves a beautiful girl. Having a beauty on their arm makes a guy feel proud of themselves and her. It will make people wonder, wow, if that chick digs him he must have something special! all of them want pretti(er) women. The other reason lies with women themselves. All women want to FEEL beautiful too. Even if it's on a subconscious level, being with an average guy will make them look MORE beautiful in comparison, rather than competing with him in the beauty department.
juiceejuice juiceejuice 8 years
well, it just because the girl is more beautiful, doesn't mean that the guy will be faithful or that the relationship will work. look at halle berry and her ex, eric bennet (sp?) - she's drop dead gorgeous, but he still cheated on her multiple times.
rpenner rpenner 8 years
this is not shocking. i've always noticed that the girl in the relationship is USUALLY the better looking one. and i think it's because we do factor in pretty much everything about the guy when it comes to be attracted to him. it's not just looks that make the guy attractive to us. and i do think guys put more, not all, but more importance on the looks factor.
Ikandy Ikandy 8 years
I dont think someones hotness can be judged by looks...the smile, the voice(my fiance has the sexiest voice and laugh), the energy, personality,...a great sense of humor really does it for me. Id pick an average joe over a pretty boy anyday.
Ikandy Ikandy 8 years
I dont think someones hotness can be judged by looks...the smile, the voice(my fiance has the sexiest voice and laugh), the energy, personality,...a great sense of humor really does it for me.Id pick an average joe over a pretty boy anyday.
mimm mimm 8 years
I would prefer an average guy but very intelligent and smart. A man does not have to be beautiful.
lizlee89 lizlee89 8 years
if it's true love, looks don't matter! it's cliche because it's true...
sunshowers83 sunshowers83 8 years
Btw, I tease my boyfriend for being prettier than me. He is VERY pretty, imo. :)
sunshowers83 sunshowers83 8 years
Hmmm... seems like Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones weren't the best example the author could have picked. Regardless though, I do see the point of the article. For the girls who want to know what the big deal is and think it's so shallow of people to be pointing out these discrepancies, I want to know if you've ever noticed that while it's not at all uncommon to see ugly dudes with knockout women, you almost NEVER see a drop dead gorgeous guy with a homely girl. Clearly there's something going on there, and I think popgoestheworld hit the nail on the head. It's true, guys without good looks can prove their genetic fitness in other ways - by showing their ability to amass resources (wealth), by proving their intelligence (being in a position of authority, or being very funny), by proving their willingness to take risks and face danger (playing extreme sports or other bad-boy behavior), etc. Women, on the other hand, were valued first and foremost for their fertility and unfortunately, studies show that physical appearance is a pretty darn terrific indicator of fertility. Youth is a huge factor in fertility, and a pretty face is often one that projects youth - thick hair, big eyes, small nose and narrow chin, etc. Also check out all the studies regarding waist-to-hip ratios - it's no coincidence that the ratio favored by men from all different cultures and eras in time is also the ratio possessed by women who are least likely to succumb to a variety of diseases and cancers. This also explains why many men are so intimidated by powerful women. Men like to feel needed, it's reassuring to them to know that a woman relies on him and is less likely to stray. Before anyone jumps on me for enforcing horribly outdated gender stereotypes, let me point out that I realize that we're no longer living in caves and beating each other with sticks, but it hasn't been very long since those times in the evolutionary scheme. We haven't completely evolved past being drawn by those primal, instinctual urges - and so while they're not exactly ideal in this day and age, we should at least understand why we have them. If we're aware of these subconscious tendencies, then we can begin to work around them.
sunshowers83 sunshowers83 8 years
Hmmm... seems like Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones weren't the best example the author could have picked. Regardless though, I do see the point of the article. For the girls who want to know what the big deal is and think it's so shallow of people to be pointing out these discrepancies, I want to know if you've ever noticed that while it's not at all uncommon to see ugly dudes with knockout women, you almost NEVER see a drop dead gorgeous guy with a homely girl. Clearly there's something going on there, and I think popgoestheworld hit the nail on the head. It's true, guys without good looks can prove their genetic fitness in other ways - by showing their ability to amass resources (wealth), by proving their intelligence (being in a position of authority, or being very funny), by proving their willingness to take risks and face danger (playing extreme sports or other bad-boy behavior), etc. Women, on the other hand, were valued first and foremost for their fertility and unfortunately, studies show that physical appearance is a pretty darn terrific indicator of fertility. Youth is a huge factor in fertility, and a pretty face is often one that projects youth - thick hair, big eyes, small nose and narrow chin, etc. Also check out all the studies regarding waist-to-hip ratios - it's no coincidence that the ratio favored by men from all different cultures and eras in time is also the ratio possessed by women who are least likely to succumb to a variety of diseases and cancers. This also explains why many men are so intimidated by powerful women. Men like to feel needed, it's reassuring to them to know that a woman relies on him and is less likely to stray. Before anyone jumps on me for enforcing horribly outdated gender stereotypes, let me point out that I realize that we're no longer living in caves and beating each other with sticks, but it hasn't been very long since those times in the evolutionary scheme. We haven't completely evolved past being drawn by those primal, instinctual urges - and so while they're not exactly ideal in this day and age, we should at least understand why we have them. If we're aware of these subconscious tendencies, then we can begin to work around them.
Betty7 Betty7 8 years
For Women, Beauty = value/power. For Men, Money = value/power. This is generally how our society is. When you switch something up problems tend to arise - Insecurities. (I'M NOT SAYING THIS IS TRUE FOR EVERYONE IN THE WORLD BUT IT IS TRUE FOR 99%) I would also like to say that I've met a lot of male models and have yet to meet one with a great personality or who's not insecure. Not even one.
Marci Marci 8 years
I'm glad to see all the posts agreeing with my take that Michael Douglas is NOT an average Joe. Hello! I think people have chemistry and that's that.
Marci Marci 8 years
I'm glad to see all the posts agreeing with my take that Michael Douglas is NOT an average Joe. Hello! I think people have chemistry and that's that.
badkitty badkitty 8 years
michael douglas is sexy as hell. sometime people do not need to be drop dead gorgeous to be hot or sexy. everyone's opinion of beauty is different thankfully. what some think is unattractive, others think attractive etc etc. as far as this article goes, my husband is waaay hotter then I am. thankfully all of my kids look just like him!!
Suzaila Suzaila 8 years
I so agree with Kristin, I have yet to see an attractive man with a not so attractive woman ... me and my girl friends talk about this all the time. However, my boy boyfriend is always commenting on how he never see attractive women with poor/unsuccessful men. And he is always saying that men don't really care about looks (this is where I think he is just lying to himself lol)Anyway, IMHO, when looking for a partner, we women want someone who can care for us, love us completely, make us feel special and safe. So the physical attribute sort of come second place.Where as men, well, it seems to me they look at the physical attributes first and foremost before looking at anything else.
Suzaila Suzaila 8 years
I so agree with Kristin, I have yet to see an attractive man with a not so attractive woman ... me and my girl friends talk about this all the time. However, my boy boyfriend is always commenting on how he never see attractive women with poor/unsuccessful men. And he is always saying that men don't really care about looks (this is where I think he is just lying to himself lol) Anyway, IMHO, when looking for a partner, we women want someone who can care for us, love us completely, make us feel special and safe. So the physical attribute sort of come second place. Where as men, well, it seems to me they look at the physical attributes first and foremost before looking at anything else.
Meike Meike 8 years
Can't say I relate. I find my guy utterly hot and many of my family and friends are quick to say we 'match'. Other people may view us differently. Everyone has their own standards of what attractiveness is.
chiccarmel chiccarmel 8 years
P.S. I like to date guys who are rich in culture and knowledge. If a man is educated, well-groomed, well-bread, well-reared , and refined, then he's my kind of guy no matter his facial features.
chiccarmel chiccarmel 8 years
First Dana, you took the words right out of my mouth. When he was younger he was HOTTT!!!!!! Moving on. This article does not surprise me at all for two reason. First when men get or are born with money , they believe they can pull whatever woman they want.(In their mind) Society kinda of socializes people to think that way. Men are condition to go for style over substances. That's why good looking men sometimes looked down on less attractive women. Second I think women don't view looks as much as men. We look past facial features more than men for varies reasons. I also think that more people look at why a good looking man is with a less attractive women than vis versa. I think we're trained to look at beautiful women with how ever looking man. Feel free to disagree.
chiccarmel chiccarmel 8 years
First Dana, you took the words right out of my mouth. When he was younger he was HOTTT!!!!!! Moving on. This article does not surprise me at all for two reason. First when men get or are born with money , they believe they can pull whatever woman they want.(In their mind) Society kinda of socializes people to think that way. Men are condition to go for style over substances. That's why good looking men sometimes looked down on less attractive women. Second I think women don't view looks as much as men. We look past facial features more than men for varies reasons. I also think that more people look at why a good looking man is with a less attractive women than vis versa. I think we're trained to look at beautiful women with how ever looking man. Feel free to disagree.
kythera kythera 8 years
I think dating a not so cute (or not as cute as you) guy can be humbling. There are guys I've dated that weren't great looking but I came to love their personality, or the great way they treated me (I've never been into "bad" guys), or a feature that I fall in love with.IMO "hot" looking guys never turned me on. Their egos are frigging huge! I have to get passed their artificial persona to get to someone who is lame. And they never like to be "official". Hot guys are terrible kissers btw. Hehehe.8)
kythera kythera 8 years
I think dating a not so cute (or not as cute as you) guy can be humbling. There are guys I've dated that weren't great looking but I came to love their personality, or the great way they treated me (I've never been into "bad" guys), or a feature that I fall in love with. IMO "hot" looking guys never turned me on. Their egos are frigging huge! I have to get passed their artificial persona to get to someone who is lame. And they never like to be "official". Hot guys are terrible kissers btw. Hehehe. 8)
jill37 jill37 8 years
Yes, and Michael Douglas is hot. And as the girlfriend of a sexy older man, I definitely don't think age is a bad thing.
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