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Bisexuality Is NOT a Phase

News to Me: Bisexuality Is NOT a Phase

Most of you probably view bisexuality as a separate sexual orientation, but some scientists and people in society see it as just a phase, a time to experiment with sexual freedom and to have fun. Bisexual women are stereotyped as people who fear commitment, are promiscuous, or don't want to admit that they are lesbians. These insulting assumptions are made about bisexuals because there are hardly any scientific studies done about it, until now.

A new study shows that bisexuality isn't a phase at all — it's a lifelong sexual orientation just as heterosexuality and homosexuality are. The new findings also suggest that the distinction between lesbianism and bisexuality is a matter of degree rather than a kind of orientation.

There are a lot of social pressures among gays and lesbians, but bisexuals often have even greater hurdles. Hopefully with more studies like these, people will have a better understanding about bisexuality, which will in turn decrease prejudices.

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Monique-Marie427757 Monique-Marie427757 7 years
According to the APA (American Psychological Association) being bisexual is an actual sexual orientation.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
when i was around 21, i was clubbing alot, and my favorite place was our local gay club. Nothing better than drag shows and the music. I drank alot, and i found myself dancing with alot of lesbians. and I found myself attracted to some of them. I made out with a couple , but never fully went "there". At the time I didnt call myself Bisexual, and i look back on it now and chalk it up to curiousity, the way they made me feel good about myself, and my appreciation for good kissers. I can look at women and say "she is hot" and not mean that i want to be with her sexually. I did know girls in college that were "LUG"s or "Lesbians untill graduation" and they always bothered me, i felt that they were wasting whatever lesbian they attached themselves to time, and hurting them in the long run.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
when i was around 21, i was clubbing alot, and my favorite place was our local gay club. Nothing better than drag shows and the music. I drank alot, and i found myself dancing with alot of lesbians. and I found myself attracted to some of them. I made out with a couple , but never fully went "there". At the time I didnt call myself Bisexual, and i look back on it now and chalk it up to curiousity, the way they made me feel good about myself, and my appreciation for good kissers. I can look at women and say "she is hot" and not mean that i want to be with her sexually. I did know girls in college that were "LUG"s or "Lesbians untill graduation" and they always bothered me, i felt that they were wasting whatever lesbian they attached themselves to time, and hurting them in the long run.
1QTPIE 1QTPIE 8 years
Get over it... gay, bi, straight, does it really matter... What ever floats your boat.. tickles your pickle.. I personally prefer a man. I do like the woman body, but I'm only attracted to men sexually. I've had friends who've played "bi." Not cool at all. My sister actually experimented. Now she's a mother. Waiting on her baby daddy. I have friends who went from straight to lesbian or straight to gay. It's not a big deal to me. We're all human and we like what we like.
1QTPIE 1QTPIE 8 years
Get over it... gay, bi, straight, does it really matter... What ever floats your boat.. tickles your pickle.. I personally prefer a man. I do like the woman body, but I'm only attracted to men sexually. I've had friends who've played "bi." Not cool at all. My sister actually experimented. Now she's a mother. Waiting on her baby daddy. I have friends who went from straight to lesbian or straight to gay. It's not a big deal to me. We're all human and we like what we like.
Poster-of-a-Girl Poster-of-a-Girl 8 years
Frankly, I think sexuality is a continuum rather than two sides of a coin. I think some people stay at one end of the continuum and others at the other, others in the middle, and others move around. I think sexuality is fluid, and I think that's okay. Many girls I've known went through a "phase" in high school, myself included. Some were faking it, and some were just exploring. Also, I've thought of bisexuality is being attracted to or falling in love with people, and not caring about the gender. Although that idea seems incongruent with the idea someone else proposed that some people are attracted more to one gender than the other, although they consider themselves bisexual. It's definitely an interesting topic :)
Poster-of-a-Girl Poster-of-a-Girl 8 years
Frankly, I think sexuality is a continuum rather than two sides of a coin. I think some people stay at one end of the continuum and others at the other, others in the middle, and others move around. I think sexuality is fluid, and I think that's okay. Many girls I've known went through a "phase" in high school, myself included. Some were faking it, and some were just exploring. Also, I've thought of bisexuality is being attracted to or falling in love with people, and not caring about the gender. Although that idea seems incongruent with the idea someone else proposed that some people are attracted more to one gender than the other, although they consider themselves bisexual. It's definitely an interesting topic :)
kimmbot kimmbot 8 years
As a proud bisexual, I'm appalled that people are STILL figuring this out. If you can "accept" gay people but not bisexuals, what's wrong with that picture? In fact, I'm a little offended that it's even a "news to me" issue. Oh, and to those of you disagreeing with the idea that bisexuality is not a phase? I will admit that some young women play around with their friends to impress men (I've seen it, I won't lie), but the fact that they're even willing to do that makes them at least bi-curious. On some level, you're open to it and want to see what it's like. And it's sincerely disappointing that some of you look at these "fakers" and apply the same idea to any other self-proclaimed bisexual out there. I shouldn't have to PROVE to you that I genuinely like both women and men. It's not an either/or situation. Seriously, accept that I am who I say I am, because in the end, I am the only one who defines me.
kimmbot kimmbot 8 years
As a proud bisexual, I'm appalled that people are STILL figuring this out. If you can "accept" gay people but not bisexuals, what's wrong with that picture? In fact, I'm a little offended that it's even a "news to me" issue. Oh, and to those of you disagreeing with the idea that bisexuality is not a phase? I will admit that some young women play around with their friends to impress men (I've seen it, I won't lie), but the fact that they're even willing to do that makes them at least bi-curious. On some level, you're open to it and want to see what it's like. And it's sincerely disappointing that some of you look at these "fakers" and apply the same idea to any other self-proclaimed bisexual out there. I shouldn't have to PROVE to you that I genuinely like both women and men. It's not an either/or situation. Seriously, accept that I am who I say I am, because in the end, I am the only one who defines me.
almost-famous almost-famous 8 years
Right Meiki, there are different types of bisexuals. Since there are different types, no one has the energy to research this fact. I never tell people how I date or whom I'll spend most of my time with. I'll be explaining for days because they won't get it....
Meike Meike 8 years
Quite honestly, the people who give the bisexual orientation the mislabeled 'phase' stage are the people who 'fake it' because, trust me, they exist. I've known college girls who labeled themselves a 'bi' purely to attract men. Sure, they didn't mind being physically sexual with another woman but mentally their minds were on the men that found these actions 'hot'. Sad, isn't it? However, I think that is where the mislabeled 'phase' is most likely coming from. These woman aren't bisexual. They are trying to please men. As for the opposite, I've never known any guy who was bisexual to impress a woman. I guess a lot less women are 'pigs'. On that note, I have a couple of bi friends who really are bi. It has never been a phase. Their relationship either succeeded with a man or woman because the relationship worked not because they were suddenly homosexual or suddenly straight. I do agree, however, there are certain degrees of bisexuality that do exist, teetering slightly more towards either sexual preference. A person could love women but love men more i.e. 75% of their relationships ending up with men.
Meike Meike 8 years
Quite honestly, the people who give the bisexual orientation the mislabeled 'phase' stage are the people who 'fake it' because, trust me, they exist. I've known college girls who labeled themselves a 'bi' purely to attract men. Sure, they didn't mind being physically sexual with another woman but mentally their minds were on the men that found these actions 'hot'. Sad, isn't it? However, I think that is where the mislabeled 'phase' is most likely coming from. These woman aren't bisexual. They are trying to please men. As for the opposite, I've never known any guy who was bisexual to impress a woman. I guess a lot less women are 'pigs'.On that note, I have a couple of bi friends who really are bi. It has never been a phase. Their relationship either succeeded with a man or woman because the relationship worked not because they were suddenly homosexual or suddenly straight.I do agree, however, there are certain degrees of bisexuality that do exist, teetering slightly more towards either sexual preference. A person could love women but love men more i.e. 75% of their relationships ending up with men.
BRANDYNICOLE730 BRANDYNICOLE730 8 years
kaenai, I was gonna bring up the same "impressing the boys with kissing girls" topic. You nipped me in the bud.
lemassabielle lemassabielle 8 years
I'm bisexual and it's not a phase it's programmed into my body. I can't control how I feel and I love being with both genders sexually. If people don't approve of it shame on them, we should be a little more accepting of all differences.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
well i have a question, since im not in the know, when a bisexual person falls in love with either a man or a woman and decides to be in a marriage or a monogamous realtionship with him or her; well if ur with a man, dont u long for a woman and the feeling of a woman and the body of a woman? how would u deal with that. and vice versa?
Daisie Daisie 8 years
Just last semester I had a sexuality class that taught that there were two types of bisexuality...either you were "playing" or you were transitioning to one or the other. Lol. I have read before, just as the bisexual girls here stated, that being bi is harder than being gay or straight. Problem I have is that I have a gay friend..a guy..who claims he is bi so that he will accepted MORE. *sigh* I'm not in his head of course, but in the over 5 years that I have known him has he never checked out a girl, talked about a girl, talked about straight porn, tried to hit on a girl or make eye contact, etc...etc. See where I'm going with this? I feel bad for people who are genuinely bi and out when other people are lying about it to their advantage...or ease.
Daisie Daisie 8 years
Just last semester I had a sexuality class that taught that there were two types of bisexuality...either you were "playing" or you were transitioning to one or the other. Lol.I have read before, just as the bisexual girls here stated, that being bi is harder than being gay or straight. Problem I have is that I have a gay friend..a guy..who claims he is bi so that he will accepted MORE. *sigh* I'm not in his head of course, but in the over 5 years that I have known him has he never checked out a girl, talked about a girl, talked about straight porn, tried to hit on a girl or make eye contact, etc...etc. See where I'm going with this? I feel bad for people who are genuinely bi and out when other people are lying about it to their advantage...or ease.
hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl 8 years
ugghh! thanks for bringing this up. being bisexual is very difficult. i dated a woman for several years, and after we broke up, i started seeing a man. when i did this, all of my lesbian friends abandoned me for not being a "real lesbian" just like straight people shut me out when i told them i was dating a girl.
hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl 8 years
ugghh! thanks for bringing this up. being bisexual is very difficult. i dated a woman for several years, and after we broke up, i started seeing a man. when i did this, all of my lesbian friends abandoned me for not being a "real lesbian" just like straight people shut me out when i told them i was dating a girl.
Jeny Jeny 8 years
There isn't anything wrong with bisexuality either way.. if you like both, you like both! Who cares! Do what makes you happy..
TH0ROUGHBRED TH0ROUGHBRED 8 years
im a bisexual and im tired of people who don't anythinq about being bi insulting and critizinq us. How can you have a study on sumone`z sexual orientation we are what we are and leave it at that. Its not a phase and im sure not experimenting this is who i am and im happy!
erratic-assassin erratic-assassin 8 years
kaenai - u nailed it bigtime with the wannabe's. can't stand the posers.
starofsorrow starofsorrow 8 years
I've always been of the mind that bisexuality isn't a phase, especially after seeing one of my close friends struggle with it. Rather, it's just that some are more attracted to a gender than to the other, and it really depends on how you're "wired" on the inside.
pinkmermaid23 pinkmermaid23 8 years
Oh, finally!
pinkmermaid23 pinkmermaid23 8 years
Oh, finally!
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