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When It Comes to Blind Dates, Throw Out Your "Check-Off" List

We're happy to present this excerpt from one of our favorite sites, YourTango.

Most everyone looking for love has a check off list. You may be aware of yours, you may have even written it down. It looks something like . . . good looking, active, intelligent, confident, smart, good sense of humor, successful, likes the outdoors, likes to travel, and so on and so forth. And for those of you that think you don’t have a check off list, think again. You do. If it’s not in the forefront of your mind, it is most definitely back in your subconscious. We all have a vision about our perfect match, the fantasy of who we want to love and who we want to love us back.

When you first meet someone, you have run him or her through your check off list in about 30 seconds. I mean it, 30 seconds. And in the next five minutes you have confirmed that your initial assessment was correct. You think that you’re intuitive, perceptive, and experienced enough to determine what you need to know about this person in one meeting. And you’re dead wrong.

Yes, your conscious and subconscious mind are working hard on your behalf but they could care less about your “list.” You have embraced or dismissed this potential new love interest on things of which you are unaware. There is something running you and until you become aware of what that is, you will continue to make the same choices (that may or may not have work before) again and again.


Here is what you need to know.

  1. Your past is running the show. All the unresolved hurts, disappointments, and beliefs are making decisions about your date. Is he just like your ex-husband? Is she just like your mother? Is she NOT like your mother? Is he unavailable? These are the kinds of questions your unconscious mind is asking.
  2. Your unconscious mind only knows what it knows. It finds information that it can categorize and file away in its archives. In other words, it wants to pick something out that will match your past as quickly as possible. This is information it knows how to handle. It is familiar.

To read more things you should know about blind dates visit YourTango: When It Comes to Blind Dates, Throw Out Your "Check-Off" List

Written by Julie Orlov for YourTango.

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