I'm sure many of you can relate to being persuaded into having sex because your guy claimed he'd have painful blue balls if you didn't. So is this just a lame way to try to seduce you, or are blue balls an actual issue?
Let's first talk about what they are exactly. It's a slang term for aching testicles, which occur when a guy gets aroused but doesn't have an orgasm. When he becomes sexually excited, blood rushes to his genital area and the arteries carrying blood enlarge, but the veins are more constricted. This uneven blood flow traps blood in his penis which causes him to have an erection. His testicles enlarge about 25 to 50 percent, but once a man ejaculates, his arteries and veins return to their normal size rather quickly. If he doesn't ejaculate, however, there will be a lingering, heavy or aching sensation in his testicles, known as blue balls — the name comes from the bluish tint that appears when blood engorges the vessels in his testicles.
So are blue balls harmful? To find out,
Experts say the discomfort is minor and it doesn't last long, but this feeling is likely exaggerated because it's coupled with the disappointment of not being able to orgasm. You should know that in no way do blue balls cause any physical complication or harm to his business, and you shouldn't feel like it's your job to cure him. It's become a socially accepted idea that when a guy has sex, he has to orgasm, but try not to feel pressured into going all the way or pleasing him so he's sexually satisfied if you're not ready to take that next step.