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Borderline Personality Disorder and Sex

Men Find Great Sex in Borderline Personality Disorder

It's practically become an onscreen cliche — the needy, unstable woman looking for attention, preferably in the form of sex. Borderline Personality Disorder manifests as complicated, and those who suffer from it see the world in black and white and people as good and bad. They're moody, vulnerable, and have a persistent fear of abandonment that keeps their relationships predictably unstable.

The Daily Beast looked at what's so hot about sex on the borderline, but it actually has nothing to do with sex. The BPD woman makes the object of her affection the center of her universe. And lots of men fall head over heels for that. "It really felt like she was losing herself to me," said the ex of a woman with BPD, "and that’s what made it so hot."

But must "she" always be a woman? Three-quarters of those diagnosed are. Are women more susceptible? Or are doctors typecasting, diagnosing more women than men? Find out below.

A little bit of both. Women are more likely to suffer from sexual abuse as children, receive invalidating messages from society, and be socialized to be dependent than men, which all lay the shaky foundation for BPD. Yet doctors may also be more likely to diagnose women because they're more likely to seek treatment and men with BPD are often in prison, not being diagnosed at all.

Whatever it is, though, it's a destructive combination in either sex.

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