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"My Boyfriend Cuts Me Out on Friday Nights"

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So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years and while this is not my first long-term relationship, it is for him. Our relationship seems to be progressing very slowly, no keys to the apartment, no drawer set aside to keep my things, nothing. And I am not sure if it is like this because he hasn't really experienced a relationship or he just doesn't care. I of course can push the issue, but I don't want to be that girl.

Anyway, the problem I seem to have is that 1. my boyfriend has a lot of girls that are friends and 2. goes out every Friday night and doesn't include me, even when I ask him to. His excuse is that it is guys' night out (which I know for a fact there are girls there) and that it is his night. This is fine, but I want to meet who he takes the time out of his life to spend with, just once.

I have spoken to him twice about this and how I am hurt. A boyfriend who "loves" you would want to introduce you to everyone right? I've met his family and some of his friends, but not this group. I don't know if it is because he is embarrassed of me, cheating on me or is seeing what potential he has to. It seems every Friday I stress myself out. I don't want to break up with him, but he is not really doing anything to comfort my uneasiness.

I have caught him in a lie before, saying he was somewhere when in fact he was out elsewhere, which raises my insecurity and questioning of him. What made him have to lie to me about something so small? I am very laid back and don't question him, but after finding out about the lie, I have become this crazy, insecure person. Always questioning if he is lying, where is he really and who is he really with?

I know he loves me and is very affectionate with me, any suggestions on how to get through or is breaking up my only option?

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