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Boyfriend's Ex-Girlfriend Won't Go Away

Group Therapy: His Ex Won't Go Away Indefinitely!

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I'm 32 and my boyfriend is 31. My live-in boyfriend for the last year has an ex that I really just can't stand (I think that's all exes though right ladies?). So he dated this girl for two years, however for more than half of their relationship they lived in different states. He broke up with her a year and a half ago. Summing it up. Apparently they never fought, so she's either a pushover or just they never fought because they were never by each other. ANYWHO . . .

When he and I first started dating they talked every day, multiple times a day. She calls herself his "best friend," though he said his best friend is not her (he doesn't tell her that though). I shut that daily chatter down real quick and now a year later, they talk about once a week for not too long, on average about 10 minutes. Sometimes they talk a few times a week because he's in the car a lot for work and gets bored.

He and I had a blog about our lives and she can't read it because she doesn't know if it will upset her, those were her words. Seriously, it's been a year and a half since he dumped her and she's STILL not over it. And I'm supposed to be ok with him being friends with this chick and talking to her at all? I don't like this because she still has the hots for him, so how do I know her intentions when he talks about our relationships are in the best interest of us, not her. He still has pictures of her on his computer, and some are from when they lived together and are of them in the process of hooking up!

To make matters worse, we're going to visit his friend for Thanksgiving who lives close to her and I guess we're going to dinner with her while in town. I'd rather eat poo off a shoe but feel I'm being childish and untrustworthy if I say no. And well let's face it, I'm not going to let him go without me so I have to say yes!

Ugh, am I being jealous for no reason? OR should I keep a pair of binoculars on this chick cause she might be trouble. She lives two hours from here, but that's too close in my opinion. And this weekly chatter because she's his ex of two years they were together (they broke up in may of 2010) still chaps my hide.

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