I have been dating my boyfriend for almost three years now. We started dating when I was 17 and we were in high school. The first few months were rocky, and he cheated on me with someone I considered a friend. Due to high school pressures, the drama ensued and I lost many friends because of my relationship, and my decision to stay with him. I believed that he would grow up and that his bad decision was due to his immaturity. Overall, he has grown up but we are still having some issues as of late.
We broke up recently and got back together. I feel as though sometimes he can be controlling in our relationship and very aggressive when it comes to fighting. We got into an argument the other day because a co-worker of his came forward and said she had feelings for him. I know that my boyfriend feels nothing for her, for his whole life he has always had a lot of friends that were girls, and says that nothing will come between us in that way. However, I for one do not believe that guys and girls can truly be good friends, especially if one has feelings for the other. We spent some time talking about it, until he decided I was "beating a dead horse." I felt like he wasn't really listening to me and how I feel. He feels strongly that it doesn't matter if she cares for him because he has no feelings back and that's what matters. Am I overreacting about this, or is he right? Should I let it go, or am I just being insecure because I don't have someone on the outside that likes me like that? Sometimes I feel pathetic for not having so many other friends like he does. How do I handle it when he sort of dismisses my concern about this girl?