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Hi Ladies. I really need some advice here from an outside point of view. It's kind of a long story, so here it goes:

I have been with my boyfriend for almost four years. He has recently become close with a mutual friend of ours, who happens to be a girl. They text all the time, and he always invites her over on weekends to hang with us and his roommates, and she recently broke up with her boyfriend.

I've expressed to him that I'm a little jealous of their relationship, but he told me there's nothing to worry about. About a month ago, he was having people over at his apartment, and she was over. I was standing next to him and saw that they were texting each other, in the same room. I told him that this looked shady, and he said he just didn't want to start a fight between us by talking to her. I let it go.

Then the next night, she was over again, and I found some texts between them that looked really bad. He asked her if he could come take a nap on her couch, and she asked him if he liked what she was wearing that night (a little skirt) and he said he did. I freaked out and started crying after seeing these, and I talked to him about it.

He explained everything to me, and at the time I believed him. He told me he only wants to be with me and he doesn't like her. Since then, they text a lot, and I've been trying to trust him, because he's never given me a reason not to. I got a glimpse of his phone the other day (not snooping, I swear) and saw that he has been deleting his text messages. This just looks really shady to me. I just keep thinking different things in my head that could be going on between them, and I'm freaking myself out. He's never given me a reason not to trust him, but I just can't shake this feeling that something is going on. I'm considering going on a break, but I'm not sure. I would talk to him about it, but I feel like I've brought it up so many times that it's just going to make him mad.

What should I do ladies?


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