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When I first started dating my boyfriend, he told me that he had a friend who he thought was cute and he used to have a crush on. Suffice it to say, it made me really paranoid whenever they hung out together. My boyfriend would sometimes lie about talking to her and looking at her facebook pictures and eventually I got annoyed by his trying to cover stuff up and called him out on it. We had a series of arguments about it and eventually decided that I would try to be more chill about the situation and he would stop lying to me about talking to her and stuff.

It's been about a year now and my boyfriend left his email signed into my computer where, lo and behold, I saw he'd just been talking to this girl. He apparently emailed her out of the blue to give her "advice" because I guess she is moving to a new city and she posted that she was moving on facebook. In the email he wrote that he regrets not moving to that same city and that she should only contact him via email, because he doesn't check his facebook frequently.

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So, I am pissed for a few reasons. First, it's been 3 days and my boyfriend hasn't said anything about talking to this girl. His instructions for her to only email him sound like he's trying to make sure I don't see anything, since if they spoke on FB I could see it on his wall. Second, my boyfriend lives with me because we both go to the same graduate school. He told me he wanted to stay here to be with me, and has never voiced any regrets about not moving to this other place. I'm kind of hurt that suddenly he's telling this girl that he hates being here and was considering moving and now regrets not moving.

I know this doesn't seem like a huge deal (I mean, ok, my boyfriend isn't cheating on me) but I am so irritated that he is lying about this same girl again! Now I am wondering how much he actually talks to her, and maybe others, behind my back. I don't know what to do. I am pretty disgusted and at this point, I kind of just want to call it quits. We've been dating for almost 5 years now and I figured that by this point in our relationship, this sort of drama would be over.

Advice is appreciated . . .

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