I'm 25 and my boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years. We were debating something meaningless this past weekend when we both decided we should just drop it because it was ridiculous, and I made the joke, "I know I joke about waiting for a ring, but honestly, I wonder if we're even close to being ready for an engagement!!" He countered with, "Yeah, I know! I don't even think I could live with you!"
We've been talking for about 6 months now about getting our own place and how exciting it would be. I brought the topic up the next day and he maintained that he was being honest, he wants to live on his own. So I brought up the "Our Own Place" line he's used, and he said he meant one of us getting their own place, which would mean that we would have our own space to be alone.
We talked about that for a bit, until he brought up marriage and launched into a speech on how he thinks it's meaningless and he won't ever get married. He said he wants to be with me for the rest of his life, but he doesn't believe in marriage so why bother with a ring, a ceremony, and an expensive reception if we're planning on being together anyway. I said that marriage was important to me, that I've dreamt of getting married for a while now because it's an important symbol in religion as well as as a couple.
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