I have a friend who has always been a little clingy, and more than a little negative. There's always some sort of drama in her life, and she's usually bitterly complaining. Plus, she is incredibly sensitive — I always felt like I was walking on eggshells around her. Recently, I took stock of my life and realized that I dreaded her phone calls and emails. And getting together almost always wound up involving sitting at her house, listening to her complain about work, friends, and anything else she could think of.
I told her that I needed a break from the friendship. She said she did, too. Since we haven't been talking, I've been much happier, focusing my energy on friendships that feel healthy. Now she's called to say that she really wants us to be close again — and I do not! I've tried to engage with her as little as possible, and I'm always polite, but I dread hearing from her. I don't wish her ill and I don't think she's a horrible person, but my heart sinks when I think of having her back in my life. How to handle this situation?