"My ex-boyfriend wanted to remain friends, but I didn't because he was not there for me emotionally in the relationship, so I don't see how he would be as a friend. So recently I cut off all contact with him. No texting, calling, and I recently deleted him off Facebook to try and get on with my life."
"I've been with my boyfriend for two years now. Initially, I fell for him first and then he fell for me. We have a strong relationship and we talk about everything — including marriage. Things used to be great, and I used to think I could never live without him. Even the thought of losing him could bring me to tears."
"I'm going through a terrible breakup. I can't get over him. After half a year, after trying everything. I still love him. I CANNOT imagine myself with another guy emotionally and physically."
"I have been dating my current boyfriend long distance for about a year and am planning on moving in with him. I found a job in the city I am in and wish we could try long distance for a little while longer. My boyfriend refuses. I'm hesitant about moving to be with him and not having a job. I have also been thinking about my ex a lot lately."
"I really don't know how to approach the situation. It seems unfair to uninvite him, and if we weren't on a break, I would want him there, but he is going on a trip to California without me. I'm not sure what to do."
"Ever since I broke up with my ex of four years — which happened a year ago — I've had a pattern of rebound guys who either got really clingy, moved too fast, or disrespected me. Throughout that time, whenever I did anything with a guy, I felt guilty. I still do."
"On one hand I love him, and I want to sincerely wish him a happy birthday, and be civil with him, but on the other hand there's no point in me bothering if what I say or do won't change anything."
"We talked a bit more and realized that we didn't have any good reasons to stay together, and that we had become more like friends with benefits than an actual couple. He seemed very relieved after we both decided to break up."
"My ex and I broke up a while ago. We broke up because he was very controlling, we had a lot of miscommunication and there was unavailability on his part. The sex was very good though! He wants to be friends with benefits and we talked about it and agreed we would try it out."
"Is it even worth it to explain my lack of response for the past three months, to make him understand that it wasn't personal, that I didn't write him off? Or should I simply just wish him the best and write him off permanently? I thought that time would make things better, but clearly he got the wrong impression from my silence."
"I have tried breaking up with the guy I met online multiple times now with no avail. I have explained to him about what is really going on and how I feel and so forth. However, every time I try to tell him the truth he becomes emotionally unstable, depressed, and suicidal. I don't know what to do."
"Then, out of the blue — about two weeks after the mini-vacation — he sent me a long text: 'Honey, I love you, I really do and I don't want to lose what we have because I love spending time with you and I don't want to lose that. I love you but I'm not in love with you.'"
"Three guys I dated in the past have suddenly been in touch. I agreed to meet these guys on dates, only to find out afterward that they were all in relationships. I know moving on is not about going backwards, but this is almost becoming a trend."
"There are so many things I wish I could tell my boyfriend but I'm so scared that I'll lose him. All of a sudden he's this totally new person. The guy I fell in love with was sweet, kind, caring, he was just the best. Now he treats me like crap. I won't give up on this relationship because I know he's the one, but it gets so hard."
"I'm afraid and in the back of my head a voice is telling me that if it didn't work the first time, why would it this time? Also, I still harbor guilt over the first break up, so I'm nervous to let myself go and just roll with it."
"A little over a year ago, I was in a relationship with a guy who lived about an hour from me. We were together a lot, and were set up by mutual friends. I fell in love with him, and he said he was serious about me. He slowly showed me that he was actually a controlling narcissist who was most likely cheating on me as well. He became verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive, and although I loved him very much, I gained the strength to leave and cut all contact."
"My ex and I became friends with benefits after we broke up. As of right now I don't have any more feelings for him but I also don't feel the need to continue any sexual relationship with him. I have told him this and he refuses to let go."
"He calls and texts and shows up unannounced to my apt door to pursue this sexual relationship. I don't want it and he just isn't giving up. I have tried to tell him why but it's as if he doesn't listen to me. He just doesn't want to listen to what I want or what I need out of a relationship."
"We've been talking and going out every now and then, as friends. Last night we went out, and had a great time as usual, but I just told him I can't handle the "friends" thing anymore, and that maybe I should take some distance from him to heal and move on."
"I have had lots of ups and downs with the relationship. I feel he's the only one who really knows me, more than my mom or other relatives do. I've been thinking that maybe he isn't the right guy for me because of the fact that we argue over the smallest things a lot and I feel like he triggers the argument to be what it turns out to be."
"I'm in a relationship that has run its course. I'm sure of it — we've been distant, we haven't been communicating, and I'm happier when I'm with other friends. However, I really, truly care about my boyfriend. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but I won't be able to keep him in my life."
"I'm tired of men taking me for granted when I'm with them and then they want me when I do my own thing. I just want to find the right guy. My ex thinks I'm a puppet and that I'll just stay around waiting for him forever. I'm not a doormat. How do I move on?"
"My ex and I broke up eight months ago. We can't seem to talk without a fight occurring, so I personally don't see the point in talking. He broke up with me and refused to see me after we broke up. He didn't even have the decency to talk with me face to face. But lately, he wants to text me and that's it."
"My ex and I broke it off eight or seven months ago, our relationship was that of best friends that eventually went out. I was happiest and so was he in those times. We both got overwhelmed in the relationship and we both called it quits in the best way, but we were both very sad. Then, after not seeing him for months, I saw him and I wanted to talk to him since I was just so happy to see him, but he was mad/angry to see that I had moved on so quick."
"I feel like I'm the reason for their problems. They ask me for advice every time they get into a fight — about once a week — and I really, really want to tell them to just break up, but I'm afraid that I'll lose one of them in the process."
"I know we have so many issues: trust, baggage from the last relationships, needing to communicate better. Do you think it's possible for two people to work through all that? Do you think it's even worth it?"
"Someone close thought it was sad but thought I should sue him to take the pics down because I asked him months ago and he didn't. I'm not going to do that but I just think it's weird. I'm curious to know what does it do for him to have these pics up for people to see when we are not together?"
"My ex and I broke up two months ago. I've tried to get back together with him but he refuses, saying that he doesn't love me anymore. It hurts so much, but every time I feel like I'm close to moving on, he randomly texts me and gets my hopes up. I still love him, but I'm too exhausted to handle the way he keeps popping back into my life."
"Through these two-plus years, I quit trying to make sense of it and thought that I'd moved on to my own life and got over it. I had a weird dream last night that his wedding was on the main street of our little town and at the end of the ceremony I congratulated them. When I woke from the dream, that sadness from when we parted ways, hit me hard."
"My best friend is currently going through a breakup. She and her ex weren't of the same religion, so they decided to part ways. Yesterday she was telling me that she feels like she can't talk about her feelings with me because I don't understand."
"I don't know if we should get back together or if I'm just feeling lonely lately and that's why I feel so miserable sometimes. He hurt me deeply, but I truly loved him. I don't want to give him an ultimatum, but I also don't want to feel this way. It's really hard, because we were friends before we were even a couple and I care deeply for him."
"I've spoken with some friends and they said I should go visit my ex's mom. I feel like I might not be strong enough to be surrounded by his family and all of his home belongings (even though he doesn't live there any more). Should I consider visiting them (even if it is infrequent) or should I just leave them in the past?"
"We started growing apart and lately it's just like I can't stand him anymore, I don't want to kiss him I don't want to tell people I'm engaged and he is super nice to me and tries hard to do sweet things to make me happy but I'm just never satisfied."
"I am 21 and got married when I was 18 because I got pregnant and thought it was the right thing to do. Well after I got married my husband became someone else. We were always fighting about stupid things. I got so stressed out about our fighting I ended up losing our baby when I was about three months pregnant, which stressed me out way more."
"I have been in this relationship with my boyfriend for about six years now, and we have had troubles, but eventually we solve them. About two weeks ago, my boyfriend started to ignore me. He is not calling me at all, and I do all the calling to check up on him."
"I can't handle it. I have been throwing up, crying and shaking uncontrollably and it doesn't seem to be stopping. I'm not sure why I'm handling this so horribly but I really need support. I don't have a support system and have been having to do this alone. I don't even know if he is upset. It feels worse to think that I'm the only one feeling bad."
"My boyfriend broke up with me recently due to distance and frustration in our relationship. We love each other; I know that. Well, I was pissed at first, but then I started trying to get back with him. On facebook (petty, I know), he would post semi-mean/bashing statuses. I would send him sweet messages about how much I love him and want to be with him and all he did was brush me aside. He said he's not sure if we'll get together or not but for now he just wants to talk normally and go from there."
"The thing is, some days I feel really blue and lonely, no matter how busy or distracted I am. I start thinking about the fact that I lost the guy that I thought was the love of my life and my best friend. I don't feel sad about him, I feel sad about the fact that I don't know if I'll ever find something like that again."
"I was with my boyfriend for about five years when he broke up with me. We were broken up for 10 months. We eventually got back together 2 years ago. I've just recently found out that during our break up he slept with one of my friends (or frienemy)."
"When he and I first started dating they talked every day, multiple times a day. She calls herself his 'best friend,' though he said his best friend is not her (he doesn't tell her that though). I shut that daily chatter down real quick and now a year later, they talk about once a week for not too long, on average about 10 minutes."
"My first love broke up with me several weeks ago and I'm heartbroken. I am 21 and we dated for 4 years (lived together for 2). I don't even know the exact reason we broke up; he said a lot of conflicting things, but basically said he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore."
"Last year a relationship ended for me, and ever since I've been having a tough time accepting that the guy isn't going to be a part of my life anymore. I don't know why, it's not as if I would allow him back into my life after the perspective I've gained from the time apart, but nevertheless I can't seem to move on."
"I'm 25 and my boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years. We were debating something meaningless this past weekend when we both decided we should just drop it because it was ridiculous, and I made the joke, 'I know I joke about waiting for a ring, but honestly, I wonder if we're even close to being ready for an engagement!!' He countered with, 'Yeah, I know! I don't even think I could live with you!'"