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Dear Sugar
A couple of days ago I broke up with my boyfriend of two years. We didn't break up because he mistreated me or because I didn't love him, but because we were just in two different places in our lives. We were beginning to grow apart and wanting different things in our future. I know I did the right thing by ending it, but it still hurts so badly. I love him as a person so much and I miss having my best friend around. Do you have any advice for someone with a broken heart? Grieving Gabby

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Dear Grieving Gabby
I am so sorry you are brokenhearted. Breakups are always tough especially when you can't blame someone or something for your split. Sometimes it is just easier to be mad at the other person than to admit the timing just wasn't right but the person was. Take it easy on yourself as your wound is still raw. Time is the best healer out there although it can feel like an eternity until you feel better.

Do you have a good group of girlfriends you can spend time with? A sister or a mom you can talk to? Do what makes you feel good. Get a massage or treat yourself to a day of shopping, anything to keep your mind busy. Every person is different and each breakup is unique. I wish there was a magic potion out there to heal your heart, but you are just going to have to give it time. Keep your chin up.

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runaluna runaluna 9 years
Gabby, Im feel ya. Im about to make the most difficult decision in my life. My bf and I have been together for 3 years, and we plan to marry next september. We have the restaurant reserved, the mc reserved, we even paid the downpayment for the restaurant and bridal. The problem is, something bad has happened and im forced to ... think thru. its difficult bcuz it involves money. im so upset right now. Its easier if the guy's a jerk. But my bf isnt. I also wish the best for him, and i think breaking up wh me will set him free. *hugs* i guess we have to be strong. I've started hanging out wh my girlfriends, share this wh them and listen to their advices. It actually makes us bond even tighter. *hugs*
Vsugar Vsugar 9 years
Breakups like that are the hardest kind. It's WAAAAYYYYYY easier when the guys is a jerk, and you can honestly say that you never want to see him again. Caring deeply for someone and wanting the best for them, and valuing the good they bring into your life, but knowing they just are right for you is THE WORST. Time, time, time. In time, you will come to see that you REALLY are better being in place of openness where you can meet the RIGHT person for you. Be proud of yourself for making this incredibly difficult choice, and just have faith that the lonliness will pass. If you hadn't done it now, you would have done it later - it's like ripping off a band-aid. Be Strong!!
t0xxic t0xxic 9 years
Go chill with Britney Spears ;) Time will heal girl kisses
Lindsb Lindsb 9 years
Time is definitely what's going to make the most impact on your healing process. If it helps, I have to say that I really admire you. It takes a lot of courage to admit that something you love and cherish isn't the best thing for you. It takes even more courage to end something like that. I think you've done the right thing (and I think you know that). Just stay strong, keep active (going to work and creating different projects and outings really does help). I hope things get easier for you. Good luck and take care.
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