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Catholic Church to Married Couples: Pray Before Sex!

Not too worried about ruining the mood, the Catholic Church has unveiled a new prayer for married couples to recite before they get down to business. The prayer is designed to help couples purify their intentions so sex isn't about selfishness or hedonism, so I guess praying that the sex will be good is off limits.

The prayer asks God to:

"Place within us love that truly gives, tenderness that truly unites, self-offering that tells the truth and does not deceive, forgiveness that truly receives, loving physical union that welcomes. Open our hearts to you, to each other and to the goodness of your will."

The prayer is part of a prayer book for spouses that aims to offer support for Catholic couples throughout the different stages of marriage. While I see nothing wrong with people seeking advice from their faith, praying right before sex seems inappropriately timed. But that's just me. What do you think?

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cwpn cwpn 6 years
I enjoy sex with my partner who I love and I don't feel guilty for feeling pleasure during sex, we have these organs for a reason and I intend to use them the way nature intended. I hate organised religions that can brainwash people into thinking sex is a dirty thing. I like to live my life how I want to and not live it by a book, what kind of life is that.
mkvamme mkvamme 6 years
"No disrespect for my non-Protestant sisters, but we don't have a bunch of self-apointed conservative jerkstores claiming to be God's political appointees on earth."Yeah, how could anyone ever take that as disrespectful?As a response to the REAL question:God was the one who created our bodies to feel pleasure with sex. It is supposed to feel good and if it is inside of the bond of marriage, why would there be any guilt? Sex was made for marriage just as we were made for sex. It unites and bonds two people, physically, emotionally and spiritually.God didn't make sex feel good just to turn around and trick us and say "I know you like it, but don't even think about it." God is a part of it, so I don't understand why it's so incomprehensible.To each his own, but you don't need to insult someone else to say that you disagree. I also don't see how saying a prayer in your own home has anything to do with politics or "pushing their agenda," but whatever.
mkvamme mkvamme 6 years
"No disrespect for my non-Protestant sisters, but we don't have a bunch of self-apointed conservative jerkstores claiming to be God's political appointees on earth." Yeah, how could anyone ever take that as disrespectful? As a response to the REAL question: God was the one who created our bodies to feel pleasure with sex. It is supposed to feel good and if it is inside of the bond of marriage, why would there be any guilt? Sex was made for marriage just as we were made for sex. It unites and bonds two people, physically, emotionally and spiritually. God didn't make sex feel good just to turn around and trick us and say "I know you like it, but don't even think about it." God is a part of it, so I don't understand why it's so incomprehensible. To each his own, but you don't need to insult someone else to say that you disagree. I also don't see how saying a prayer in your own home has anything to do with politics or "pushing their agenda," but whatever.
Pistil Pistil 6 years
I guess I'm in the minority here, because I don't see the problem with connecting your spirituality with your sexuality... Though I don't practice any religion, so I won't be praying tonight.
seraphimm seraphimm 6 years
Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, what tlsgirl said. This is incredibly disturbing.
seraphimm seraphimm 6 years
Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, what tlsgirl said.This is incredibly disturbing.
Jmartens Jmartens 6 years
deal lord, please give us both the big O!
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 6 years
Hypnoticmix - too funny! I just think it's par for the course for Catholicism to lay on the guilt and make everything that is pleasurable feel like a sin that needs to be repented or forgiven. I married into a very conservative Catholic family (who outside of my hubby does not know I'm atheist) and I think I'll have to bring this up and see if they plan on obeying the Pope's latest "edict".
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 6 years
Hypnoticmix - too funny!I just think it's par for the course for Catholicism to lay on the guilt and make everything that is pleasurable feel like a sin that needs to be repented or forgiven. I married into a very conservative Catholic family (who outside of my hubby does not know I'm atheist) and I think I'll have to bring this up and see if they plan on obeying the Pope's latest "edict".
Keke84 Keke84 6 years
I agree with Kimpossible and cko444. I am Catholic (not as much practicing as culturally) and still consider sex to be a spiritual union between my partner and I. Even if it does get a bit (excuse my blush and giggle here) dirty sometimes. Personally, my own beliefs indicate that you can't exclude God from what God created. Though it is up to each couple or person in a relationship to decide for themselves. I think it can be a very nice way to remind yourself that there are two people in a relationship and can perhaps open your own mind up to other issues you may be harboring about sexual relations.
Keke84 Keke84 6 years
I agree with Kimpossible and cko444. I am Catholic (not as much practicing as culturally) and still consider sex to be a spiritual union between my partner and I. Even if it does get a bit (excuse my blush and giggle here) dirty sometimes. Personally, my own beliefs indicate that you can't exclude God from what God created. Though it is up to each couple or person in a relationship to decide for themselves. I think it can be a very nice way to remind yourself that there are two people in a relationship and can perhaps open your own mind up to other issues you may be harboring about sexual relations.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 6 years
I agree, I think it's a lovely prayer that can be said daily, in the mornings or at a specified time during the day (where each partner knows the other is saying the prayer at the same time kind of thing), but directly before sex... not only is it a mood killer, I can see it also negatively affecting the relationship when it's recited directly prior to sex.
cko444 cko444 6 years
i think it could be ok as, like, a daily affirmation - the sentiments are good. but not directly before the act. the best sex has an aspect of spontanaeity and NOT THINKING TOO HARD.
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 6 years
I pray before having sex... "dear god thanks for making the birth control work thus far, keep up the good work!"
jazzytummy jazzytummy 6 years
I'm more likely to pray after sex...either "Thank you, God!" or "Dear God, please deliver me from this a$$hole" !
Hiding55 Hiding55 6 years
Agree with Sloane. Just some more catholic guilt to put on the pile. If it's your thing that's fine. I personally think it's crazy and if I want to have some filthy selfish sex every once in a while I'm gonna do it.
mix-tape mix-tape 6 years
I find it interesting learning about different religions. This is something I can respect a couple doing before sex, but definitely not something I could picture myself participating in.
sidra5397 sidra5397 6 years
It's a cute little prayer, but interestingly it kind of reminds me of sexual tributes by pagans to their gods. If it's your thing then go for it, I guess.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 6 years
What the f***?
tlsgirl tlsgirl 6 years
What the f***?
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
Do exclamations of "Jesus!" and "Oh God" count? Well the content of the prayer is alright enough, good sentiments there. I guess if it's your cup of tea sure why not.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 6 years
Do exclamations of "Jesus!" and "Oh God" count? Well the content of the prayer is alright enough, good sentiments there. I guess if it's your cup of tea sure why not.
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