Skip Nav

Condolence Etiquette

Dear Sugar
A few days ago, my friend's family member passed away. The problem is, I don't know how he was related to her, or who he even is. How can l show my condolences for this man's passing?

I just found out about it today, and we aren't the best of friends, but I'd like to do something for her. Should I send a card or call her? But how do I address the relative in the note? Stumped Stephie

Dear Stumped Stephie
A card would be the best way to express your condolences. Write something heartfelt such as:

Dear Friend,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I am here if you or your family need anything at all - nothing is too small. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
Love,
Stumped Stephie

I think that calling right now may be too intrusive. Sending a note is passive and let's her know that she is on your mind.

Latest Love
It's the Screen Actors Guild Awards! Check out all of our red carpet and event coverage!
×