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"Can I Keep It Strictly Sexual With a Controlling Ex?"

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

My ex and I broke up a while ago. We broke up because he was very controlling, we had a lot of miscommunication and there was unavailability on his part. The sex was very good though! He wants to be friends with benefits and we talked about it and agreed we would try it out. After a few days of talking he gave me a list of rules that I have to follow. I have taken the worst out of the batch to list them here.

-You are not allowed to contact me, only I am allowed to contact you. You can reply to me only with the information of if you are free. No small talk allowed. I don't care for it.

-I would like to date and have sex with other women. If you see me anywhere I would want you to act like we are strangers.

-This thing ends when I tell you it ends. I am the determinant of that.

-There is to be no drama from you in anyway. If anything hurts or if you do not enjoy it. You will then need to woman up.

After reading this I felt as if he was being sexually abusive and controlling-yet again. I told him I didn't want to follow through with it. I am just ignoring him now . . . am I being unreasonable when he doesn't want to agree and compromise with things WE BOTH WANT? What would you do in this situation?

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