I have a crush on my copy editor at work. He holds my hand and he calls me luscious. He's adorable, sweet and funny and he winks at me all day long which always puts a smile on my face. I walked over to his cube the other night to say goodbye and there he was with his ... boyfriend. I can't even believe he's gay. The problem is that my feelings are real and now that I can't have him I want him more than ever. What should I do? Shocked Charmaine
Dear Shocked Charmaine
You should do nothing about it! He's flirting with you fairy style. Since he's gay, he's not going to reciprocate your feelings. He is simply being cute and being your friend. Go with it if it makes you smile - lucky you to have a little burst of sunshine at work throughout the day. You can't make a move on him, he's got a boyfriend. Not only will the boyfriend get angry if he finds out (wouldn't you) but it might ruin what you guys have together now. Try and move on ... and even better, try not to find a work crush, those are always complicated.