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I have been in a serious and committed two-year relationship with a wonderful guy. Our sex life is great, we have a lot of fun, and it is very exciting and pleasurable. I am a healthy 29-year-old women, as "normal" as can be, no past history of trauma or of any type of abuse. But I keep crying after reaching orgasm. It doesn't occur every single time, I would say that it's happened maybe 5-10 times, I can't remember. But I all of a sudden get a strong urge to cry, like bawl out crying. What is worse is that I try to hide it from my bf, because I can't explain it and don't want to freak him out. I usually start to tear and I will just hid my face till it passes.

Like I said, I have no history of any sexual abuse of anything that would require some kind of psychological attention, and my boyfriend treats me very well. I almost want to conclude that it may just be the overwhelming emotions from very strong orgasms, but didn't know if it is common and happens to other women. Can anyone relate?

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Allytta Allytta 4 years
happens to me too, nothing to worry about :)
dexaholic dexaholic 4 years
I've had this happen, and it's like Anonymous #9 said "It was the best thing I have ever felt and I just got a rush of love and emotion all at once that came out as tears"... it's nothing to be ashamed of, for either of you!
juicebox07 juicebox07 4 years
I feel sad after sex sometimes, and I don't even orgasm. I think it's just hormones.
Venus1 Venus1 4 years
I agree with the other comments. Orgasms can be very emotional. Enjoy them, think of those who have trouble in this department and enjoy!
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 4 years
I just want to throw my hat in with the "this is normal" group. Enjoy!
daisy23 daisy23 4 years
So I am going to assume this is from vaginal orgasms and not clitoral? My eyes water up right when i orgasm and from what I have found it has to do a little bit with blood pressure. Truth is there is not a lot of info on vaginal orgasms. Most women don't have them regularly or at all. So for those of us that do it is difficult to understand what is ok. If all else is normal I think you should give yourself a break....it is an intense experience!
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 4 years
I've heard that tears of 'joy' are actually tears of 'relief,' like when you laugh til you cry what's really going on is you're so relieved to have a minute of happiness that the rest of the stress in you life comes pouring out of your tear ducts... something like that. Made sense when I heard about it but I don't think I explained it as well.Anyway maybe you're under more non-relationship stress than you realize, and when you have a mind-blowing orgasm it's so great that sometimes it reminds you of how not great your life is in other areas. Maybe not, just throwing out an idea.Maybe spend some time looking at what you're discontent about in the rest of your life and work to change that. Achieving the balance between happy love-life and happy professional/family/personal life might help.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 4 years
I've heard that tears of 'joy' are actually tears of 'relief,' like when you laugh til you cry what's really going on is you're so relieved to have a minute of happiness that the rest of the stress in you life comes pouring out of your tear ducts... something like that. Made sense when I heard about it but I don't think I explained it as well. Anyway maybe you're under more non-relationship stress than you realize, and when you have a mind-blowing orgasm it's so great that sometimes it reminds you of how not great your life is in other areas. Maybe not, just throwing out an idea. Maybe spend some time looking at what you're discontent about in the rest of your life and work to change that. Achieving the balance between happy love-life and happy professional/family/personal life might help.
Helen-Danger Helen-Danger 4 years
Don't worry about it. I think it just means you're having some fabulous orgasms and your guy is to be commended! Let him know what's going on in a complimentary way and he may very well feel proud to have affected you so deeply. If you can, try to say something like, "that was so amazing...so intense" when you're crying to remind him you're okay.Tears aren't always from sadness. When soldiers come home from a war, their families cry out of joy. Sometimes the soldiers cry too! Many of us cry at weddings. It's like there's this strong feeling from the heart that kind of explodes and tears somehow let it out.
Helen-Danger Helen-Danger 4 years
Don't worry about it. I think it just means you're having some fabulous orgasms and your guy is to be commended! Let him know what's going on in a complimentary way and he may very well feel proud to have affected you so deeply. If you can, try to say something like, "that was so amazing...so intense" when you're crying to remind him you're okay. Tears aren't always from sadness. When soldiers come home from a war, their families cry out of joy. Sometimes the soldiers cry too! Many of us cry at weddings. It's like there's this strong feeling from the heart that kind of explodes and tears somehow let it out.
jenkrum jenkrum 4 years
If you've been with him for 2 years and you've only done this 5-10 times then I'd say it's normal. It happens to me periodically and I just chalk it up to the release of hormones that comes with an orgasm. If you're worried about scaring your boyfriend or making him think there's something wrong then let him know that nothing negative is making you cry. I understand trying to hide when you're crying but sometimes having him hold you while you cry, even if it's not a bad cry, is relieving.
jenkrum jenkrum 4 years
If you've been with him for 2 years and you've only done this 5-10 times then I'd say it's normal. It happens to me periodically and I just chalk it up to the release of hormones that comes with an orgasm. If you're worried about scaring your boyfriend or making him think there's something wrong then let him know that nothing negative is making you cry. I understand trying to hide when you're crying but sometimes having him hold you while you cry, even if it's not a bad cry, is relieving.
pax4pax pax4pax 4 years
I'd guess it's hormonal. Go have your self checked.Or maybe you're just crying for joy? Tell him that.
pax4pax pax4pax 4 years
I'd guess it's hormonal. Go have your self checked. Or maybe you're just crying for joy? Tell him that.
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