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DEARSUGAR NEEDS YOUR HELP: Is It Cheating If It's Phone Text Sex?

DEARSUGAR NEEDS YOUR HELP: Is It Cheating If It's Phone Text Sex?

DEARSUGAR and Naughty Natalie need your help. She is dating someone long distance and has recently found a love interest at work. They've been flirting away, but now he's remorseful and wants nothing to do with her. She's really upset and feels let down by him. Do you have any advice for her?

Dear Sugar
I've been with my guy for almost five years (we are in a long distance relationship). I've recently become close to a friend at work and discovered we both have feelings for one another. We talk daily and have amazing chemistry. He's the type of person you can tell anything to and not feel like you're being judged.

I think he's amazing, but unfortunately we are both taken. Monday night after a party he brought me home and we sat in his car and talked in the parking lot. After about 30 minutes he gave me a hug and I went in my house and he left.

We then texted each other from the time he dropped me off until 7am. I can't believe we stayed up all night long. The conversation became very sexual and we basically ended up having phone text sex. We went to sleep and I woke up the next morning and texted him to see how he was doing.

He said it was a mistake and it should have never happened and he hates himself. I totally understand that he is feeling guilty and sad, but now he no longer wants to have any kind of contact with me outside of work. He just wants to be distant cordial friends who say hello at the water cooler every now and again. I'm having a hard time with this seeing as we've become so close and I've really become accustomed to leaning on him. Naughty Natalie

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