DEARSUGAR and Helpful Hadyn need your help. Her best friend's boyfriend has asked her to come shopping with him to help him pick out the perfect holiday present for his girlfriend. She has been down this road before though and her good intentions have backfired on her causing a fight between her and her friend.
She wants to help out her friend's boyfriend, but she doesn't want to get in the middle of a lover's squabble if he decides against her suggestions and disappoints her friend with a random gift. What should she do?
My best friend's boyfriend has asked me to accompany him shopping this weekend to help pick out a holiday gift for her. I am rather reluctant to go because the last time I helped a guy shop for a friend of mine, she was very disappointed with her present.
He went completely against my jewelry choice and wound up picking out a bright red wallet for her instead. She was extremely disappointed and since he told her that I had gone with him, she blamed me for him not getting her what she had hoped for.
I'd like to assist him since I know exactly what she wants, however, I feel like it's a little risky to try this again. My better judgement is telling me to stay out of it and just email him some ideas to help point him in the right direction.
This way, if she tries to blame me for anything, I have a record of my suggestions. I feel like I sound like a woman scorned. What do you think? Should I even bother to get involved with this kind of thing again? Helpful Hadyn