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DEARSUGAR and Maddened Maddy need your help. She is sick and tired of her selfish friend never saying thank you to her. She wants to talk to her about how it's making her feel, but she isn't sure how to approach such a touchy topic.

Maddy, all I can say to you is to stop expecting anything from her or stop giving to her. Do something for her only if it makes you feel good. If you wait around for a thank you that you may never get you are only going to be disappointed and angry. Have any of you ever been in this position?

Dear Sugar
I have a friend that never says thank you and it drives me crazy. I love to do nice things for my friends and all that I really want in return is a "thank you." For instance, I went and helped her at a trade show that was out of town and I was working three twelve hour days for her for free.

The first day she left me to set up and work all by myself, and I didn't even know the product very well. It was very challenging, tiring and I thought that it was something we were going to be doing together. The next two days, she was around, but she barely even spoke to me.

When we got back to my city, she and her young son stayed over night at my house, as she lives in another city. I slept on the couch, and had fresh linens, etc... on my bed for her and her son. She thanked me for letting her stay, but did not thank me for all of my free help at the trade show.

Recently, I made her a customized Christmas CD and sent it by courier. Again, when she received it, she didn't even say thank you. This behavior just seems really weird to me. I want to say something to her because I don't like the way it makes me feel about her.

It's affecting our friendship and is making me not want to do anything nice for her ever again. What can I say to her to make her understand that ignoring my generosity isn't nice and I feel like she is taking advantage of me ?

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