DEARSUGAR and Despondent Despina need your help. She can't seem to shake her feelings for a guy that broke up with her. Although she seems quite grounded and has a good perspective, she's let this guy get so deep under her skin that now this once well put together lady is a mess. How can we help pull her back up?
I have been single for the past year now, and I have dated a few nice guys here and there but no one is really making me swoon. I became really involved with one guy who I fell really hard for, but he ultimately decided that he didn't want a relationship with me.
We are still friendly but in a way, I have never really gotten over it. Now, when I am around him he makes it pretty obvious that he's keeping his distance from me and it makes me feel so undesired and unwanted. Because of that, I have been so scared of being close to anyone.
I have never had these feelings before and it's freaking me out! I have always loved being with men and being close and intimate with them has never been a problem. I just don't understand why this is making me feel the way I do. I am generally a very happy and content person. I also know that I am quite a catch.
What bums me out the most is that I know he was never right for me in the long run anyway, yet it still hurts. Now I am deathly afraid of being close to anyone. Is it normal to feel like this? What can I do to get over it? Despondent Despina