DEARSUGAR and Patient No More Pari need your help. She's majorly crushing an old time friend, but he's always on again off again with another girl who's got a black belt in karate. Talk about putting yourself out there emotionally and physically. What would you do if you were in her shoes?
I am in love with this intelligent, hot and honest guy. I say honest because I think it's one of the most endearing qualities about him (well, besides his rear end)! We've known each other for what seems like forever, and the problem I am having is that I can't tell when he's on or off with his longtime love.
Through the years, they must have broken up a dozen times already. I've waited and waited and now I can't seem to stop thinking about him. His girlfriend, or ex, has a black belt in karate and frankly, she scares me. She is super possessive of him and I am afraid that if I mess with him, there's a chance that she'll mess with me!
What do you think that I should do about this? If you were me, would you talk to him about your feelings and take your chances with both of them, or would you just continue to remain friendly with him and find someone without baggage? Patient No More Pari